How to Tell She’s Tired of Texting You

Sure, you get super excited when you get a girl’s phone number, but things don’t always go smoothly from there. Determining your place in her heart sometimes won’t be easy, especially when it’s not possible to talk or meet face to face. Do not worry! Here are a few ways you can tell if she’s tired of texting you.

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She didn’t answer

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Count how many times she just saw your messages and didn’t reply. Does she forget to reply to your texts or reply quite often? If she’s not interested, she won’t bother replying to your texts and will find lots of excuses. ^{[1] X Research Source}

Let’s hear if the reasons she gives are real or not. Reasons like “I’m at work”, “I’m in class” are quite believable, but if she says “I’m busy” it’s a bit vague.

Almost only you text her

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Count how many texts you sent her and how many she sent you. Do you and her talk about the same amount of time or are you 80% talking? According to experts, unbalanced conversations are an important sign that the other person is not interested in talking to you anymore. ^{[2] X Research Source}

Her messages are very general

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The answers are generally a clear sign of disinterest. While it’s okay to send a few messages like this every now and then, but if it’s that often, it’s definitely alarming. If she doesn’t take the time to write a thoughtful response, she probably doesn’t want to talk. ^{[3] X Research Sources}

One-word answers like “okay” or “yes” are good examples of generalized responses.

Her message echoes your message

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When not interested, people often copy the words of others instead of writing something new. Reread her recent texts to you and see how she responds to you. If she repeats what you sent without writing another sentence, then it is possible that she is no longer interested in you. ^{[4] X Research Sources}

For example, if you send her a text that says, “It’s raining,” she’ll probably text back, “Uh, it’s raining.”

She asks general questions

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Simple questions show a lack of attention. Pay attention to her responses as you share your day. See if she asks a detailed question or just a very general one. If she doesn’t like to talk, she won’t pay too much attention to her answers and just ask simple questions. ^{[5] X Research Sources}

Questions like: “Where are you going today?”, “What are you doing today” are quite vague.
Remember that it’s hard to tell the tone or mood of another person through texting — it could just be the way she talks.

She changes the subject very quickly

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Changing the subject shows that she is not interested in the conversation. When you really pay attention, your conversation will only be about one topic. If you text her about your weekend plans and she responds with an unrelated question or moves on to another topic without explaining anything, there’s a good chance she’s bored with the conversation. initial . ^{[6] X Research Sources}

For example, if you’re talking about your favorite TV show and she texts you asking about your English homework, she probably doesn’t care what you just said.

She doesn’t take the time to talk

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Whether it’s a friendship or a relationship, we need to spend time together. If she’s really interested in talking to you, she’ll make time for it even though she’s very busy. If she can’t talk to you at any time of the week, it could be because she doesn’t want to talk. ^{[7] X Research Sources}

Many people will not text much during the week, but will text a lot on the weekend to make up for it. If she never seems to have time to talk, it’s probably because she doesn’t want to talk to you.
Review chat history to see who usually initiates the conversation first. If that person is your friend all the time, then that’s clearly a sign of abnormality.

She never asked for any more information

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Detailed questions are always key to a productive conversation. These questions show that she’s really interested and interested in what you have to say. If she’s always acting like she’s not interested in anything you text, chances are she doesn’t want to continue the conversation. ^{[8] X Research Sources}

If you talk about weekend plans, she might ask questions like “What do you look forward to the most?” or “How often do you go there?”

Advice

Don’t be afraid to try new things! Make your messages unique and interesting so that conversations don’t get boring. At one point you can ask her some familiarization questions, at another time you can tell her a story. ^{[9] X Research Source}
Relying on body language is one of the best ways to tell if someone is interested. If you’re able to see her in person, pay close attention to her posture – if she looks away and doesn’t seem focused on you, she’s probably not interested in talking to you. ^{[10] X Research Source}
Don’t be upset if she doesn’t like texting you. The sooner you realize it, the sooner you can focus on spending time with people who are eager and happy to talk to you.

Warning

Don’t text the same thing over and over again every day. Messages like “hi” “hey” or “what are you doing” are very repetitive and boring. ^{[11] X Research Source}
Give her time to respond. If she doesn’t reply to you within a few minutes, it doesn’t mean she doesn’t like talking to you — it could just mean that she’s busy or just not able to answer. ^{[12] X Research Source}

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