How To See Things As They Are

Sometimes life seems overwhelming. This is a normal feeling, although it can wear down your habits and lifestyle. You should try to develop your own way of seeing life as it is, no matter what is troubling you. From big events to everyday tasks, life can throw us off balance. The goal is that you need to learn how to see things the way they are.

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Consider your actions (and reactions)

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Stop and consider. When you feel like you’re not able to see things as they really are, or that life is getting overwhelming, stop and consider the situation. Taking the time to question yourself with a few simple questions and being more mindful of the situation will help you see things differently. ^{[1] X Research Source}

Ask yourself, “What am I really struggling with?”. The specific factors outlined will help you determine how you can evaluate and change.
Consider: “How do I really feel about this situation?”. If your emotions are quite mixed, you won’t be able to see things from a clearer perspective.
Thinking: “Why am I reacting like this? What are the causes, and are they relevant?”. Occasionally, we can overreact to a situation. Pausing to think about why you’re acting the way you do will help you see your thoughts from a clearer perspective.

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Accept all the factors you cannot change. Feeling anxious about factors beyond your control will only be futile and make you uncomfortable. This can lead to a confused outlook on life. ^{[2] X Research Resources} To build the habit of accepting things that you cannot change, you should follow these steps:

Be aware of your role in the situation. Is this situation beyond your control, or is there anything you can do to change it?
Maintain positivity. If you are in a situation that you cannot change, you should at least try to find the positive about it. This method will help you cope.
Step forward. ^{[3] X Source of Research} If you find yourself often in situations that you cannot control, you should analyze the steps that put you in this situation and consider alternatives.

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Make a list and rate your point of view. This will help you to be true to yourself. It also gives you a tangible list to consider when trying to gauge your values and attitudes.

Consider opinion. They will help you to orient yourself as well as to shape your relationships with others. From there, you will be able to develop a perspective on life and relationships. You should ask yourself:
“Does my opinion of [x] affect how I treat [y]?”
For example: “Does my views on Judaism affect how I treat my Christian friends?”
Does my parents’ unhappy marriage affect the way I treat the person I love? Is it fair or not?

See things differently

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Stop comparing yourself and your behavior to others. Comparing yourself to others – in any aspect like job, looks, talent, intellect, etc. – is unfair. You live a life completely different from others, and it affects and orients you in a different way. ^{[4] X Research Resources} This will help you de-stress with the expectations you set for yourself, and help you see life for what it is.

You should remember that you are one of a kind; No one else has the same history as you.
For example, do not compare your appearance with other friends. They have a different experience than you.
If you feel as though you’re not as smart as your classmates, consider the fact that you have different learning histories and experiences from them.

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Learn from your own and others’ histories. No matter what you’re struggling with, a great way to see life as it is is to consider an event that has happened before. Consider what happened and think about your problem based on that.

Your problems and life may still be emotionally strong for you. You shouldn’t take your feelings lightly even if you think “they’re not so bad”. Looking back at historical facts is about thinking about change, not looking down on one’s own thinking. ^{[5] X Trusted Source PLOS ONE Go to Source}
Read a book about history or take a class about a culture that interests you. Many prestigious academies and organizations also offer free history radio programming.

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Chat with others. A great way to build perspective is to chat with other people. They can help you consider new perspectives or acknowledge your views and opinions.

Always remember to be polite and respect the opinions of others, even if they differ from yours. Opinions and positions can be personal.

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Focus on what you can do. Looking at the situation with a desperate eye will make it hard for you to get anything done, but you can change this. If you feel like you can’t change something, you should try to identify one small thing that you can do. ^{[6] X Research Sources}

For example, if you feel you are not capable of finding a job, you should try to identify the action you need to take to begin the process. You can identify three jobs for which you want to apply or write a job application at the place that is hiring.

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Towards the future. A negative outlook will make you feel as if things will never change, instead of looking at the future with hope and possibility. You should try to change negative thoughts about the present with positive thoughts about the future. ^{[7] X Research Sources}

For example, if you say to yourself, “I can never finish this project,” try asking yourself something like, “When I pictured myself completing this project, what did I see? What happens to achieve that goal?”.

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Identify how you feel instead of focusing on others. Fear of how others will see you will also hinder your ability to develop a positive outlook. Instead of focusing on how people see you, you should focus on how you see yourself. ^{[8] X Research Sources}

For example, if you find yourself thinking, “No one likes me,” try asking yourself, “What do I love about myself?”.

Consider your place in the world

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Remember that everything changes. Life is constantly in motion, and, just like the seasons, everything changes. Many studies have shown that people who can adapt and accept changes in their lives live happier (and sometimes longer) lives. ^{[9] X Research Source}

A great way to do this is to look back at old photos. It will be easy to see how much your physical changes will be able to see things as they are.
You can also take a picture of yourself in the present to form the basis of what you want to change. The “before” photo can be a great motivator and help you focus on the present.

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Visualize the world around you. You are one of more than 7 billion people in the world. ^{[10] X Trusted Source United States Census Bureau Go to the source} This is a pretty comforting thought if you think you’re probably the only one struggling with a particular problem.

You are just a human in the universe. You will not be able to conquer all the problems in the world alone.
Another great way to get an objective perspective is to watch documentaries about the world around you. The library would be a great place to start. Learning about another culture or history will help you see life for what it is.

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Put yourself in the other person’s shoes. ^{[11] X Research Source} If you are struggling with your own problems, think about those less fortunate than you.

One way to do this is to tap into your sympathy. Think of children without food or orphans. Use empathy for a good cause and consider seeing a therapist.

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Acknowledge that you are only a small part of the universe. Given the world’s population, it can sometimes be quite comforting (albeit quite terrifying and terrifying at times) to think about the vastness of the universe in which we live.

For example, the sun, which looks quite small in the sky, is about 150 million kilometers away from the earth. ^{[12] X Trusted Source NASA Go to Source} When we think about this, it’s easy to realize how small we are and how petty our problems are.
To do this, look at the stars. The sky will look endless.
See pictures of the universe. There are quite a few free images that are great to show off the beauty and vastness of the universe. ^{[13] X Research Source}

Carmela Resuma, MPP

Travel the world and the CEO

Carmela is the CEO of FLYTE, a nonprofit that empowers underprivileged communities through transformative travel experiences. She has been traveling the world since the age of 3 and is passionate about youth empowerment, social impact and travel movements.

Carmela Resuma, MPP
Travel the world and the CEO

Traveling can help you understand your place in the world. Carmela Resuma, chief executive officer of FLYTE, says: “Philosophically, traveling helps you realize how small you are. But at the same time, you also realize that we are all important. important and capable , and you can make a difference through the people you interact with and the work you’re doing. That perspective is always amazing.”

Maintain perspective

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Set achievable goals. One step to staying in perspective is to set achievable goals, rather than focusing on goals that are too big or too far-fetched.

For example, if you need to lose about 45 pounds and can’t look at the process objectively or can’t believe it, you should break it down into several smaller goals. For example, you can try to start off by losing about 2 kg per month.

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Forgive yourself . You cannot move on and see life for what it is without first forgiving yourself. Acknowledge the element you’re struggling with, then try to forgive yourself.

For example, if you feel like you can’t let go of past mistakes, try writing about something you need to forgive yourself for. After the admission process, you should think about the feelings associated with your past actions. You should take small steps to let go of your emotions and build a fresher perspective.

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Avoid stressful situations. If you are feeling stressed or lost your perspective because of a tragedy in your life, you should try to detach yourself from the situation.

Don’t hang out with friends that often stress you out.
Consider changing jobs to maintain a healthy outlook on life.
Surround yourself with people who make you feel good and encourage positivity.

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Acknowledge that you are a separate individual. To maintain a healthy perspective, you need to always remember that you are an individual. You, and no one else, are responsible for your own actions and reactions.

Take time to pamper yourself. You should take a day off to do something you love. This method will make you aware that you can do everything on your own.
Think about what YOU want to achieve in life, not what others expect you to do.

Steps

Consider your actions (and reactions)

See things differently

Consider your place in the world

Maintain perspective

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