How to Say Goodbye Nicely

Don’t say empty sentences. When it comes to an amicable breakup, it’s important to avoid anything that might appear condescending or offensive to your ex. Stereotypical statements like “It’s your fault, not mine” sounds insincere. Instead, speak candidly and avoid clichés and clichés. Speaking from your own experience is the best way to break up amicably. ^[10]

No blame. When you choose to break up, you may still be upset. This feeling contributes to the urge to blame your ex, especially if that person has hurt you in the past. However, if you want to make it easier to leave your partner, the blame game is not a good idea.

• Avoiding any negative issues is one of the best ways to appease someone. Recalling past resentments or mistakes can spark an argument, making a breakup cloudy and frustrating. ^[11]
• If you suspect that your partner might not accept the breakup easily, remember that he or she may be blaming you. Avoid getting sucked into that negative conversation. If people are trying to make attributions, say something like, “I’m sorry you thought so, but that’s not why I changed my mind.” ^[12]

Avoid social media as it can have disastrous consequences. Social media can be a “poison” for a relationship that has just ended. If you want an amicable breakup, avoid posting this online, even if you think the other person can’t access your account, as any account can be compromised. Although many people find social media to help ease their anger during a breakup, keep in mind that your ex can be emotionally hurt by what you post online. It’s also a good idea to stop following your partner’s social media sites. During a breakup, you need to create distance between the two of you to help you both continue on your way. Cutting off some social contacts online can help you do that.

Focus on the good times. You can help your ex and yourself by focusing on the positive. Near the end of the conversation, try to focus on the interests of both parties.

• Emphasize every good thing your ex has done for you. How can at the end of the conversation, the person see that the relationship is worth it even though it is impossible to continue. Say something like, “You made me feel confident and made me a kinder, more empathetic person. I’ll always be grateful to you for that.” ^[13]
• Inspire gratitude. Accepting reality can take time, but encourage your partner to remember the good times you spent together. Relationships are social exchanges, and people have a natural tendency to seek their own interests. Your ex will be grateful that you helped him (her) see good things even if it meant ending the relationship. ^[14]

Be upfront about reducing exposure. As mentioned above, it’s good to leave the door open for a friendship, but you probably don’t want the other person to misunderstand. Be frank about the type of contact you want. For example, if you need some space before establishing a friendship, say so. Don’t try to create meetings in the sense of friends too soon, as it will confuse you and your ex. You need time and space before you meet again as friends. ^[15]

Courtesy after breaking up. Chances are you’ll run into your ex again later. Be sincere and friendly every time you meet. You should be mentally prepared. Remember that you may run into your ex when you go to work, school, or somewhere. This will help you stay calm and collected when you encounter each other.

Don’t think that your ex is your true love. When in love, many people believe that they have found true love. However, you should give up that way of thinking after the breakup. There are actually countless others who might be a good fit for you. You will find someone in the future, no matter how you feel right now. Accept the fact that the relationship ended for a reason, and you will find someone else later. ^[16]

Are you sure you want to end the relationship? If the answer is no, don’t cut things off. You need to consider this as a “breakup”. Don’t easily leave someone as an excuse to “have more options”. With or without a breakup, toying with someone else’s feelings is not kind and fair.

• If you’re hoping that you can get the person to leave you on their own, then don’t try to do so, just say goodbye to them gently. You can’t expect them to do it for you – you have to end things yourself.
• If he (she) does not understand what you mean, or the gentle attitude does not work, you need to firmly stop.

Do you want to completely cut off all contact or just return to friendship? Purpose when breaking up with someone is very important. If you don’t want to see that person again, you should end the relationship decisively and properly. If you just want to slow things down a bit, a gentle breakup is more appropriate.

• A gentle way of breaking up can make the other person understand that at some point you want to “rekindle the old love”. If you don’t want that, then quickly end it.
• If you are gentle for your own safety, then cut it off quickly. You don’t have to try to be gentle. If you’re worried about your partner’s reaction, go with a close friend.
• If there’s been disagreements between the two of you lately and you just want some alone time, you should break up with your partner gently, and you can be friends again when things have calmed down.

Is your relationship falling apart or has it seriously broken down? Every relationship has its ups and downs, and when it’s sad, it’s easy to forget the happy moments. If you’re trying to leave her because you tripped over a rock, then ask yourself if you don’t like her or your situation.

• Don’t rush to decide. Wait about 2-3 weeks to see if your feelings change.
• Many people like the “gentle breakup” style because it allows you to change your mind later. But if you keep changing your mind, you’re probably in a lull, not a relationship crisis.
• If a type of conflict is repeated every day, then you should consider ending it “once and for all”.

Is a quick and tidy breakup better for everyone? While your intention to break up gently is benevolent because you still care about the other person’s feelings, ask yourself if a prolonged breakup would have resulted in a better outcome? Sometimes you just need to shake things off quickly. If you know that the person has “invested” too much love in you and doesn’t want to give up, you won’t be able to take it easy no matter what you do. Don’t let this go on unnecessarily.

• If he seems to be aloof as well, and you don’t feel the same way anymore, you should take the initiative to break up with him in a amicable and decent way.