How to Live in Peace

Understand that living in peace is a process that takes place both internally and externally. Determining what is peaceful is not a simple thing. But one simple way to define a peaceful lifestyle is that it is a way of life that is non-violent (physically, mentally, spiritually, or otherwise), with respect and tolerance. This manifests both outside and inside the soul of each person:

• Outside: Living in peace is a way of life that respects and loves one another, regardless of cultural, religious and political differences.
• Inside: Each of us needs to cultivate inner peace. This means we need to understand and overcome the fear, anger, bigotry and lack of social skills that cause violence. Because if people always deny the anger inside, the storm outside will never dissipate.

Seek love instead of controlling others. The essential first step to living in peace is to stop seeking power over people and focus only on results. Trying to control another person means trying to impose your will and reality on that person. When you do so – even with the best of intentions – your will on that person strips them of their power, causing a serious imbalance, which in turn leads to feelings of anger and hurt. and resentment. Your controlling behavior in relationships will keep you at odds with people. A better way is to seek mutual understanding before trying to change, accept differences, use persuasion and leadership to inspire people. This does not mean that you turn yourself into a “doormat” who is easily bullied or dare not stand up for yourself; It’s about you building relationships instead of trying to overwhelm others.

• Peace is stronger than power. Gandhi has shown that power based on love is always more effective and lasting than power gained through threats and punishment.
  • Controlling others with threatening behavior, attitudes, and actions is reciprocated with reluctance rather than respect and love. Often this will lead to resentment and anger. A person can achieve his “way”, but with that is not the happiness of those around him. This is not a peaceful way of life.
  • Another example: A teacher might rely on detention and threat of punishment to discipline a student. There is another way, however: reward students who perform well and make them feel appreciated and inspired. Either way can help keep the classroom orderly and disciplined… but which class does the student want to take? And how will help students learn more effectively?
• Learn the skills of negotiation, conflict resolution, and assertive communication. These are important and useful skills that will help you avoid or overcome conflicts with others. Conflict is not always avoided, and not all conflict is bad, as long as you know how to handle conflict skillfully. If you feel you don’t have enough communication skills, read a lot to learn how to improve this skill. Clear communication is always important to ensure a peaceful atmosphere, as many conflicts arise because of misunderstandings.
• When communicating with others, try to avoid commanding, reprimanding, demanding, threatening, threatening, or unduly bothering them with informational questions. Those ways of communicating will cause friction with others when they feel you are trying to control them instead of talking to them on an equal footing.
• Trust that everyone around you can live a good life with everything going fairly. In this respect, even giving advice tends to be controlling when you use advice as a way to interfere in other people’s lives rather than just giving your own opinion without waiting for them to act. as you think. Swedish diplomat Dag Hammerskjpd once said: “When you don’t know the question, it’s easy to answer.” When we advise others, it’s easy to assume we have all the problems they’re facing, even though that’s often not the case; we are sifting their problems from our own experience. It’s much better if you respect other people’s understanding and just do the simple thing of being by their side instead of trying to impose your experience as an “answer” on their behalf. In this way, you can foster a climate of peace instead of hatred, respect instead of belittling people’s points of view, and trust their understanding instead of offending them.

Keep a neutral stance. Thinking in an absolute fashion and insisting on holding one’s own views without ever considering the feelings and opinions of others will inevitably lead to an uneasy life. Extreme thinking patterns often cause reactions, haste, and lead to thoughtless and perceptive behaviors. While this may seem convenient because it allows you to act on your absolute beliefs, it blocks other realities in this world, and easily leads to collisions when others disagree with your point of view. Keeping an open mind and being willing to review your understanding will be more difficult but will be more rewarding, because you will grow up and live in harmony with the people around you.

• Stay neutral by being open to questions and reflection. Accept that your beliefs, loyalties, passions, and outlooks are just one of many in the world. Adhere to the principle of peaceful conduct – respect for human qualities and values; follow the absolute right rule, which is to treat everyone as you would like yourself to be treated (the Golden Rule).
• Find a variety of activities in life if you find yourself falling into extreme attitudes about others. You will be less extreme if you are busy with a variety of activities and meeting people from different walks of life.
• Cultivate a sense of humour. Humor is a pacifist’s remedy for anger; Few fanatics have a sense of humour because they take themselves and their goals so seriously. Humor helps you release stress and extreme thoughts.

Be tolerant . Tolerance in all your thoughts and actions will make a difference in your life and those around you. Tolerance to everyone is to accept diversity, the trend of modern society, to be willing to rush into life and accept the way of life of others. When we cannot accept the beliefs, behaviors, and opinions of others, the result is discrimination, oppression, cruelty, and ultimately, violence. Tolerance is at the heart of a peaceful lifestyle.

• Instead of rushing to draw negative conclusions about others, change your perspective and cherish the good in everyone. Once you have changed the way you see others, you can begin to change their own self-perception. ^[1] For example, instead of judging someone as stupid and incompetent, say they are smart, wise and influential. This will nurture and encourage them to develop the good qualities you perceive in them. Recognizing qualities such as interesting, unique, or thoughtful that lie behind the defiant, angry, and distressing attitudes of others has the potential to bring about tremendous change.
• Read wikiHow articles like “How to Accept Other People’s Opinions,” How to Be Tolerant of Others, and “How to Accept Other People’s Opinions” for more suggestions on cultivating tolerance. content in life.

Live peacefully . Gandhi once said, “There are many reasons for me to be ready to die, but no reason for me to be willing to kill.” Peaceful people do not use force against humans or animals (sentient beings). Although this world is full of violence, choose to not let death and killing exist as part of your philosophy of life.

• Whenever someone tries to convince you that violence is normal, stick to your beliefs and politely disagree. Understand that some people will try to provoke you by accusing you of undermining people in conflict situations. You need to know that this is not true, and that it is just a distorted view, valuing the conflict that is the cause of death, orphans and people losing their homes. Ms. Mary Robinson, former United Nations High Commissioner for Human Rights said: “I have seen the desire for peace even for even a single day among people living in conflict. There is a day to stop violence, for me, that is it. timely and up-to-date ideas.” The reality is that violence is not what the affected people want, and that total peace for humanity is a wish that deserves to be nurtured.
• Modesty is the ability to treat violent people with compassion. Even criminals deserve to know how compassion works; but when society confines, tortures and incites violence in prisons and in our own hearts, we are like those criminals. ^[2] Seek to implement the principle of a fair and just society (not just words) such as the following examples:
• Avoid watching violent movies, news reports about violent acts, and music with hateful or degrading lyrics.
• Live among images, soothing music and peaceful people.
• Seriously consider going vegan as a way to support yourself in the future. For many pacifists, violence against animals is not a peaceful way of life. Read many articles about how animals are treated in ranches, hunting and in the medicinal industry, read about the lifestyle of vegetarians to establish your own beliefs about animals. other sentient animals. Apply the knowledge you have learned from your search to your peaceful lifestyle.

Think . Reflection is important – hasty reactions lead to tragedy because there is no time to think through every aspect of the problem. Of course, there are times when a quick response is essential to safety, but that doesn’t justify other times when consideration and discretion in reacting action can lead to better results. much.

• If someone hurts you physically or emotionally, don’t react with anger or violence. Stop and think. You can choose to react peacefully.
• Ask the person to stop and think, telling them that anger and force will not solve the immediate problem. Just say “Please don’t do that”. If they won’t stop, leave the place.
• Prevent yourself. When you feel like you want to react to an expression of anger, frustration, or irritation, say to yourself, “Stop.” Get out of the situation that makes you confused and incapable of thinking. When you give yourself some space, you’ll have time to work through the initial anger and instead come up with more mature solutions, including not reacting.
• Practice responsive listening. Words are sometimes vague, and people who are stressed often say words that cover up what they really mean. John Powell once said, “When we really listen, we reach into what lies behind words and see through them to find a person who is expressing himself. Listening is a search to discover. real human treasures are being revealed in verbal or nonverbal language.” The key to reflective listening to find a peaceful life is to stop seeing people based solely on your point of view; Start trying to get into what the other person is really saying and trying to say. This can result in a truly effective “give and take” instead of reacting based on what you think you’ve heard with guesswork and inference.

Find a way to forgive instead of revenge. Where will the tit-for-tat lead? Usually this will only cause more damage. We already know the lessons of conservative and nonsensical history. No matter where we live, what religion we live in, and what culture we are educated in, the core of everything is that we are all human beings with ambitions and aspirations to nurture. raise a family and live the happiest life possible. Cultural, religious, political differences should not be the cause of conflicts that only bring sorrow and destruction to this world. When you feel compelled to harm someone because they have offended your reputation, or because you feel that their actions deserve the same reciprocation, you are also fostering hatred. anger, violence and suffering. Replace it with forgiveness to find a peaceful life.

• Live in the present instead of the past. When you sink into the past, you will revive past trauma, and the negative things of the past will lead to constant inner conflict. Forgiveness allows you to live in the present, look to the future, and let the past rest in peace. Forgiveness is the greatest victory, as it allows you to enjoy life by making peace with the past.
• Forgiveness lifts you up and frees you from resentment. Forgiveness is a learning process – learning to deal with negative emotions that arise from actions that make you angry or upset, and you learn by being aware of those feelings instead of filling them up. And with forgiveness, you will empathize with the other person, understanding what made them do it; however you don’t have to agree with what they do, you just need to understand.
• Understand that if you cover your anger under the guise of “defending someone else’s honor,” it can be insulting. When you speak up and take action to protect someone, you can also destroy that person’s will (inadvertently making them weak), and that is an outrageous excuse for wrongdoing. When you feel that someone’s honor is being damaged, let the person you consider the victim speak their mind (they may not have the same view as you) and find a solution with forgiveness and understanding.
• Even if you feel unforgivable, that cannot be an excuse for force. Stay away and be noble.

Find inner peace . Without peace of mind, you will always find yourself in conflict. When you are busy chasing money and fame in life without ever stopping to evaluate the values in your soul, you will often feel unhappy. When you crave something and you can’t get it, you’re in a state of contradiction. It is easy for people to forget to be grateful for what they have if they are constantly competing for more wealth, a better career, a bigger house, and a more comfortable life. Besides, owning too many things will create conflict and prevent you from living a peaceful life, because you always have to “serve” the things you own, from cleaning and maintenance to insurance and safety.

• Cut down to the essentials, identify the things that can improve or beautify your life, and leave the rest.
• Whenever you get angry, find a quiet and comfortable place to stop, take a deep breath, and relax. Turn off the TV, orchestra, or computer. Get outside if possible or go for a walk. Turn on soft music or turn off the lights. Once you’ve calmed down, get up and go back to your normal life.
• Spend at least ten minutes each day sitting in a peaceful place, such as under a tree or in a park, anywhere where you can sit quietly and not be disturbed.
• Living in peace is not just about avoiding violence. Try to foster peace in all aspects of your life by keeping stress to a minimum. Avoid stressful situations like traffic jams, crowds, etc. if possible.

Live with joy. Choosing to enjoy the wonders of the world is a magical antidote to violence. There is hardly any incentive to use force over things that are beautiful, wondrous, wonderful, and joyful. In fact, the greatest frustration of war comes from the destruction of things that are pure, beautiful, and joyful. Joy brings peace to your life, because you always see the good in others and in this world, you are always grateful for the miracles in your life.

• Don’t deprive yourself of your right to be happy. Feeling unworthy of happiness, wondering what other people think when they see you happy, and worrying about the terrible thing that happens when happiness is gone – all of these are negative thought patterns. erode your path to finding joy in life.
• Do what you love. Life is not just about work. Work is necessary to ensure life, but work needs to be consistent with your outlook on life. Zen master Thich Nhat Hanh has the following advice: “Don’t live by doing harm to people and nature. Don’t invest in companies that deprive others of a chance to live. Choose a career that can help you realize your ideal of compassion.” Ponder how well you understand this advice and find a job that can provide you with a peaceful life.

Bring the change you want to the world. This is not only Gandhi’s quote but also a call to action. Here are some proactive steps you can take to bring about change:

• Change myself. Violence kicks in with your accepting that it can be a solution and is often inevitable. So it is right in your mind and you need to stop to find peace. In order to not harm sentient animals and live in peace, you must first change yourself, and then change the world.
• Contribute to problem solving. Be someone who loves everyone for who they are. Make the people around you comfortable, allowing them to be themselves when around you. You will have more friends and gain the respect of existing friends.
• Join the Peace One Day event. ^[3] Go online in response to World Peace Day, a day of ceasefire and non-violence that is celebrated every year on September 21.
• Talk to others to see how they view peace. Share ideas to make the world more peaceful and ways to accept differences without falling into conflict. You can create videos to put online, create stories, poems or articles to share with others about the importance of peace.
• Sacrifices to help others. The highest goal is to show the desire to bring peace to the world by your own sacrifice, not the sacrifice of those who have opposing views. Mahatma Gandhi sacrificed his lucrative law job in Durban, South Africa to live a simple life, sharing the pain of the poor and powerless. He captured the hearts of millions without having to impose his power on anyone but the power of altruism. You can also bring peace to this world by being willing to sacrifice your own selfish desires. Convince people by showing a willingness to serve goals greater than their own. ^[4] At the very least, you should consider volunteering.
• Bring harmony to this world by fighting for love and peace. While this may seem overwhelming to discourage you, think about it, how could Gandhi prove that a man of small stature, fragile and docile, can achieve miracles? all thanks to an unwavering belief in the possibility of achieving peace through nonviolent struggle. ^[5] Your personal condition is not important.