How to Help Someone Feel Better

Give them a gift. Can you remember a time when someone gave you a gift when they had no obligation to do so? How warm and happy did you feel when you received it? Giving someone a gift can brighten their day, helping them understand that the goodwill to give the gift is far more important than the gift itself.

• A gift doesn’t have to be expensive or even a specific object to have an impact. Take them to your secret meditation spot, or show them how to fold a paper crane. Small acts like that are often worth more than anything you can buy from a store.
• Give them something old and meaningful. An heirloom or memento will hold a lot of love because you have kept it for a long time and therefore it is something you hold dear. Old objects are also symbolic messages that life goes on, even if we can’t imagine that it will.

Try to make them smile. Make them smile by reminding them how much you care and need a comforting smile yourself. Or, if you know they won’t object, you can even tickle them!

Make them laugh . Jokes and jokes are always a good way to change the mood after you’ve talked about an issue for a long time. The joke doesn’t have to be overly funny, but if it’s told at the right time, it can have a huge impact.

• Don’t be afraid to make fun of yourself. It’s hard to make fun of the person you’re comforting, but making fun of yourself is easy: Highlight a time when you embarrassed yourself, did something stupid, or got caught. in a very awkward situation. Your friend will appreciate the humor.

Surprise them. Giving gifts on Christmas and birthdays, showing thoughtfulness on Valentine’s Day and other holidays are all very common things. But caring for the 34th time of the year on Tuesday is something they would never expect. When you don’t expect it, the gift becomes much more meaningful.

• Think about what the person likes most in life and see if you can surprise them with that. Maybe they like food; Surprise them with a dinner or sign them up for a cooking class. Maybe they like movies or musicals; Surprise them with a movie night or a pair of tickets to a show.

Try to make them forget it. So far, once you’ve listened, offered advice, and done them well, try to make sure they don’t let their problem(s) upset or discourage them. Don’t say things like “Anyway, so on and so forth” or “Forget it, it’s not that bad” because that destroys all you’ve been trying to do. Instead, give them some time to sort things out and then try saying something like “Do you want to hear a funny story?” and see how they react to it.

• Use all of your social insights to gauge where they are in the fun-returning process. If your friend is sobbing, it’s not the time to ask them if they want to hear about your day. But if she/he had an argument with her mother and seems to have calmed down, find out. Timing is the key to everything.

Change their environment. Usually, we are influenced by our surroundings and let them determine our mood. If you need to help someone get out of a bad mood, get them out! Experiencing a variety of different stimuli encourages new thinking patterns and new-better-thinking.

• You don’t have to take them to a club or a bar. Mass gatherings are not always the right solution. A trip to the dog park near you can also immerse them in the cuteness of the dogs, enough to make them forget their sorrows. Do whatever you can to distract your friend. That’s good for them, even if they want to wear their pajamas.

Give them a tight hug, if they don’t object to the contact. Some people in the moment of sadness may push away, but this is also completely normal. A warm embrace will be able to brighten their day.

Show off your strengths. Not all of them can become queens of the culinary industry, famous comedians or a talented painter. But most of us have our own strengths. Whatever it is, use it to motivate your friend. Can you cook Hue beef noodle soup? Awesome – It’s already dinner time somewhere. Can you brag about jokes as if puns were a skill taught in kindergarten? Can you draw a tent perched on a high mountain? Great. These skills can also turn into skills that make others happy.

• Use your creativity and ingenuity to solve their problems. Sing out loud a song dedicated to them. Take them hiking with them. Push them your little kitty. What do you have in your skill box? Take advantage of them.

Be very optimistic. Let’s look at the good side of life. Focus on the positive instead of the negative. Optimism is a way of thinking, and it can easily influence those around you if used correctly. Be on the lookout for exciting, exciting, or uplifting opportunities your friend might miss while busy with pessimistic thoughts.

• All problems have a positive side. Sometimes we don’t want to look at it, but it’s usually there. Here are a few ways to think about common problems in a more positive way:
  • My lover/other half broke up with me . “Don’t worry about someone who doesn’t fully value you as an individual. If he/she doesn’t understand how special you are, they probably don’t deserve you. There are still so many out there. the right people will understand your worth.”
  • A family member/acquaintance has just passed away . “Death is a natural part of life. Although you can’t bring that person back, you can feel happy about how much they have influenced your life, and about how you might have changed their lives. Be grateful for the time you spent with them.”
  • I’ve lost my job . “Work is a reflection of who you are, but it’s not the whole picture. Think about the lessons you’ve learned while doing your job, and try to find ways to apply them in your work. your job later. Finding a job is just a matter of trying harder than anyone else. Be determined to show the employer that you’re more qualified than anyone.”
  • I have no confidence in myself . “You have so much to be confident about. Everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses; that’s what makes us unique and great. I like you the way you are right now. I don’t see any difference. There’s no reason why you can’t be as confident as the person next to you.”
  • I don’t know what happened, I just know that I feel very sad . “It’s normal to feel melancholy. Our happy moments are made more beautiful by our depressed moments. Don’t force yourself if you don’t feel the same way, but think about yourself. How lucky I was compared to everyone else. It always worked for me.”

Don’t grieve yourself . If you feel bored, how can you motivate your friend? Maintain a balance between worrying – you want them to know that you are unhappy when they are upset – and being optimistic – being a carefree and positive thinker. It’s hard work and can be emotionally exhausting, but your friend deserves it, right?

• Help them and do all you can for them, so they know that someone still cares about them. This will build trust. They understand that they can count on you. Always do it with a smile.
• Invite them to do something refreshing, like going to the movies, hiking, swimming, or playing a game. If they don’t want to be distracted, don’t bother them: You can’t help someone who doesn’t want to help themselves. Be happy, wholehearted, and prepared until they want to work things out or forget about them.