How to Find a Soulmate

Always be sober with the phrase “soulmate”. Confidentiality usually refers to two people who were born for each other and can have a perfect harmonious relationship. However, all long-term, close and strong relationships also generate conflicts and disagreements. Many studies have shown that many couples tend to be more satisfied with their partners when they see their relationship as a journey or a journey. Try to frame your soul mate search in terms of these terms: you’re not looking for the perfect person who is in perfect harmony with who you are. Instead you are looking for someone who can accompany you for the rest of your life, with both advantages and disadvantages. ^[16] Another way to put it is that you should be looking for someone to grow up with, not someone born to meet you. ^[17]

• Shaping your love as destiny instead of a path won’t help, especially when conflicts or disagreements arise. When two people are happy, of course the two concepts are not different. ^[18]

Listen to your intuition. Studies have shown that intuitive reactions to others are an important indicator of whether the relationship is fruitful. ^[19] Don’t try to convince yourself against your intuition about your partner. If you have a good feeling about them, pursue that relationship. If you feel uncomfortable or worried about your relationship, even if it looks good on the outside, you will need to consider finding someone else.

Don’t let perfection overwhelm the positives. Perfection in a lover cannot be achieved overnight: it takes time. If there’s a person that’s right for you, but they have some imperfections, try to look at the big picture. A perfect love can still exist between two imperfect people. ^[20]

• This advice does not refer to “imperfections” in the event that you are abused or controlled. If your partner tries to hurt, insult, or separate you from others, it’s a bad luck relationship.

Build a strong bond of friendship. Once you’ve found a potential partner, focus on building strong friendships with your partner. Join each other in fun activities, talk to each other about life goals, learn about each other’s interests, support each other. Couples who value each other’s friendships will often have close, romantic relationships in the long run. ^[21] People who can build friendships find themselves more attached to each other (even better with sex!). ^[22]

Put effort into that relationship. Even when you’ve met someone who seems pretty ideal to you, both of you still need to put your heart and soul into that relationship to nurture and strengthen the relationship so it can last. That means you’ll likely have to work through conflicts, get used to your partner’s annoying habits, and forgive each other. ^[23] Some important steps to take to maintain a relationship with your partner are:

• Actively listen to your partner
• Forgive the other’s mistakes
• Support the other person’s hobby
• Not having a relationship with another person (if you choose to be a faithful person in this relationship)
• Show gratitude to your partner

Dating another couple. Going on a date with another couple will make your relationship more attractive and intimate. When you and your partner talk about intimacy with another couple, it’s a powerful catalyst. ^[24] Invite two close friends to dinner or join a couples group meeting to get to know each other. Let social relationships help you and your partner become true soulmates.

Kiss your partner after you have sex. Your relationship will be happier and more fulfilling if you spend time cuddling after sex. ^[25] If you think you’ve found your partner, make sure you take the time to talk to each other after sex. That action will create a positive feedback loop that will help your relationship grow.

Always have a clear goal of your life. Naturally, the two of you can help shape each other’s lives and goals. However, you also have to be yourself in both life and love. Consider what excites you most in life and whether your partner can help you achieve those goals. There are many cases where the love is not strong enough to last a relationship or a lifetime: you have to cherish and share your partner’s dreams. ^[26] Some questions to keep in mind:

• How important is my job, can the other person help me develop my work?
• Do I want to have children? Does the other party want it?
• Five years, ten years, twenty years from now, how will I be? Will I be able to see the other side still by my side?
• Are my partner and I living happily in the same city/town/region? If your partner doesn’t like living in the city but you can only live in bustling cities, you will have to rethink everything.

Avoid ambiguous relationships. Vague relationships are those that are in a breakup/resuming cycle. These types of relationships can be quite enjoyable because they are built out of familiarity and excitement. However, this excitement – while quite thrilling – is often quite negative. Studies have shown that many couples get caught up in a breakup/reconnection cycle that often doesn’t work out well in the long run. ^[27] Remember that ambiguous relationships only waste valuable time and affection, and make it harder for you to meet someone who is right for you.