How to Deal with Bullies

Learn kungfu. You can choose from Karate, Kung Fu, Taekwondo, Judo or similar subjects. Learning martial arts will help you gain more confidence, strengthen your physical strength, have more self-defense skills and the ability to win in each fight. Bullies love to hunt prey they perceive as weaker than themselves, so putting on a strong appearance can discourage them. Martial arts skills also help you know how to show that you are not an easy target.

• You don’t have to look like a warrior. Just be frank and resolute, as if to say “don’t touch me”. You’re better off fighting without actually fighting than getting beaten up and wishing you knew how to defend yourself.

Be smart and know everything. Explore your surroundings for possible exits, hangouts, conflict zones, safe zones, and boundaries. Be aware of the bully’s pattern, including possible links, as most bullies have a bunch of followers. Knowing your enemies and your surroundings can help when you’re in hiding, but most importantly, when you’re going head-to-head. ^[3]

• Confident when walking. Walk with intentional confidence and a “dare you to touch me” attitude. Hold your head high, look straight ahead, where you’re headed, and use your broad vision to recognize those around you. No matter how fake it feels, be confident and proud. Everyone will feel confused.

Learn some self-defense moves. This is very important if you have to fight (hopefully you don’t get into this situation). You don’t have to be a black belt, just a few self-defense tips. Defend yourself with all your might and without hesitation.

• A sudden kick to the groin can make an opponent feel numb and confused for a while long enough for you to run away. Bullies are not used to others having an advantage over them.
• If kicking in the groin doesn’t work, try kicking the abdomen (just below the ribs), or kicking the knee to bring the opponent to the knees.
• If the bully grabs you or presses you, believe it or not, this is again to your advantage. Trying to keep balance, grab one of their arms with your left hand and hit the elbow with the other, then slap the other arm with your other hand.
• And as soon as you have the opportunity, run to a safe place and call for help.

Be aware of yourself (and know how good you are). Understand your strengths, weaknesses, and goals. Confidence will help you when dealing with verbal bullies, as their insults won’t reach your heart. Verbal bullies need multiple listeners to spread insults, and their statements are often not based on facts but simply lies.

• Try to get over the rumors: tell people it’s not true and that the bully just wants attention. Spin the arrow backwards on them. Point out their bullying habits, show everyone how upset and insecure the bully is to talk bad about others.
• The insults and the way the person treats you doesn’t reflect the truth, doesn’t affect you, but says it all about them. It shows how insecure and upset they are. If there is nothing left to bully you on, they will move on to another target.

Do not try to bully back. You certainly don’t want to put yourself on the same level as the bully. You absolutely should point out why they bully and find holes in their argument, but you definitely should never behave like them. That only empowers them. It just makes you as bad as them.

• And if you do, you’ll be in trouble just like them. If things go awry and the authorities have to step in, no one knows who the real bully is.

Identify the types of bullying you and others are facing. There are many forms of bullying; Some are physically intrusive, others verbally abusive, while some use tricks to play with your feelings. Many bullies combine the above tactics. Either way, identification will help you understand the tactics the bully uses.

• Does that person abuse your body? Aggressive bullies love to hit, punch, kick, and pull their hair. They will act without hesitation. It’s impossible to fight with this type of bully, they’ll either blame you or cry out that they’re hurt and you’re the one to blame.
• Is that person a person who curses and insults you with words? Stinging bullies are verbal abuse (cursing, mocking, teasing, etc.). ^[4]
• Does that person pretend to be close to you, but then suddenly make fun of you in front of others? This is just emotional bullying. Other types of bullying include threatening to harm or destroy things you hold dear, doing things that make you laugh (like putting a “kicking me” note behind your back), or telling lies. lie about you to try to make people hate you. Indirect bullies, sometimes called “backstabbers” or gossipers, often separate the victim from the group and attack whenever the opportunity arises.

Understand that cyberbullying is just as real as real-life bullying. Cyberbullies attack others by repeatedly texting, e-mailing, or using other electronic means. The best way to deal with these online bullies is to not read and delete all their messages. Remember to also block messages from the bully.

• If this happens to you, it can also be dealt with under the same law as real-life bullying. Do not hesitate to tell your parents, teachers, superiors, or call the police if necessary. This is not okay and you should not put up with it.

Report “whole” bullying to an authorized person. Think of a parent, school counselor, principal, boss, police officer or someone who can handle or punish the bully and protect you. It is important that you present your case to someone to put an end to this. You are not cowardly in doing so, on the contrary, you are bravely standing up for yourself.

• Don’t worry that the bully will retaliate if you report the incident; They will hurt you anyway, and compromise will not solve your problems or those of anyone being bullied. You can also tell your friend; A good friend will stand up for you and so will you.
• If there is a bullying survey conducted in your school, please sign it up. Do not be shy. You may be invited to speak privately with an experienced person, and this will yield surprising results. You may feel weak, but you are actually stronger than the bully.

Help others overcome their circumstances. A bully is someone who is trying to be nice. They just want attention, and perhaps they learned bullying at home or from their friends. Take that away from them, and they’re left with nothing! Since you’ve been through it, you know how painful it can be, and you know how to help others!

• One of the simplest ways to help others feel better about being bullied is to change the way they think about it. Emphasize that it is the bully who is unhappy and upset, and is trying to control his feelings in order to ultimately feel good about himself. You think, that’s sad.
• If someone in the same situation comes to you, go with them to report the incident. This is a huge morale booster for them. If they don’t have their own power then you can pass your power to them.

Spread the word to everyone. Bullying is a serious problem that cannot be put aside and dealt with quietly. Take your case and say it. Ask the school to organize discussions or seminars and bring the issue out in front of everyone. Let everyone know that this problem happens every day. People only act for something when they pay attention to it.

• You may think you’re alone, or that you don’t know anyone in the same situation as you, but that’s just because they’re too shy to talk. If you take the initiative, you may be surprised to see how many people are on your side.

Understand what “bullying” is. Correctly identifying bullying behavior is important to avoid labeling every negative social response as bullying, as conflicts have nothing to do with bullying and can be a sign of a relationship. normal, healthy. Bullying is unwanted, aggressive behavior that involves an actual imbalance or imbalance in perceived power. This behavior is often repetitive, or likely to be repeated over time. Both the bully and the victim can have serious and persistent problems.