How to Dating

Step outside. There’s no need to go to bars or clubs to meet new people, although you can if you really like it. Pursue hobbies and activities that mean a lot to you. If you’re somewhere where you’re really having fun and suddenly see someone who looks interesting, then chances are you and that person will have something in common. So you’ve found the connection!

• The internet will make this much easier. You can browse forums, listings, classifieds and online mailing lists for information about events or meetings in the area that may appeal to people with similar interests and passions. passionate about.
• Once you’ve entered those places, be brave. If you are not used to approaching and starting a conversation with the person you like, you can still boldly move forward by giving yourself a friendly and approachable appearance. Make eye contact, smile, raise your eyebrows – make a connection from a distance.

Learn the art of socializing. Many people swear one in two that they hate dating; but maybe it’s just because they’re afraid to socialize. That’s normal, because socializing is extremely difficult. Usually you don’t know anything about the other person, so you have to probe to find common ground between the two of you. Fortunately, this only happens at the beginning of the conversation. Start with innocuous sentences, and once you’ve found common ground, you can talk about bigger and deeper topics. Don’t forget that you are you; You don’t have to pretend to like the taste of a certain ice cream or know all about a movie you’ve never heard of just to impress your partner. You can totally have a different opinion and make your own opinion, just keep it in moderation. Here are some tips that can help you move forward:

• Make a question. Ask open-ended questions about the other person for them to answer in detail. Questions like “Why do you love climbing so much?” much better than “Do you like climbing?”
• Talk about your surroundings. No, it’s not about the weather. You could talk about a situation where you both happen to be involved. If you suddenly notice someone playing volleyball on the beach, you can say something like, “Wow, you’re doing great. Now I know where I have to go in the future if I want to be defeated. Do you often come here to play?”
• Relate to what the other person just said. If the other person talks about a physics teacher they really like, and if you can relate to yourself, don’t hesitate to share: “Yes, I have a teacher like that. He lit a fire and blew everything up in the classroom, it was so much fun.”

Don’t be afraid to spill yourself. You are nervous. Suddenly you stammer and utter something that you think is stupid. What to do now? Instead of being serious and awkward, try smiling and joking yourself. This won’t do any harm! In fact, some people find a little nervousness in the other person to be endearing. He will laugh with you, and this will dispel the air of apprehension between the two of you. It also helps you relax and reduce anxiety.

• Make fun of yourself! “Wow, I think I’ve lost my tongue when I meet a pretty girl! It’s good to know that!” This will put you both at ease and implicitly tell the other that you don’t take yourself too seriously. In fact, being cheerful is the most important quality when it comes to dating, as one study found. ^[1]

Selective. Don’t be in a hurry to date someone who has just hinted that they like you. While it is often said that people should not be judged by their appearance, in reality people with considerations and choices are often more attractive in the eyes of others, probably because you set standards. implied that you value yourself instead of meeting everyone who agrees to date. ^[2]

• Don’t be too picky either – if you’re picky looking for the perfect match, you’ll definitely miss out on many opportunities. Assuming you’re in a room full of people with similar interests, you’ll probably be able to pick one or two people you’d like to date—not even a dozen, but it’s unlikely that anyone would be unattractive. Friend. Pay attention not to leave an event without you noticing and getting to know a few people. Exchanging phone numbers and meeting outside is often a sign that people want to find a real relationship.
• If someone asks you out on a date but you’re not personally interested, don’t use excuses like “I’m busy” or “I’m not ready to date right now.” After all, they see that you’re just “busy” for them, and they’re the only person you’re “not ready to date”. This can be even more hurtful than a rejection. You should handle it skillfully. Smile and say “Thank you, I didn’t accept your offer, but I appreciate your invitation” and change the subject to ease any awkwardness.

Intention to date. If the first few minutes of communication seem like a good thing, take courage and say what you want. It will be difficult, but you can definitely do it. Don’t fence in front of you. No matter how difficult it is, sincerity is always appreciated. You can say things like:

• Sincerely : “You’re really interesting. Can we have a drink later, or maybe any other day of the week?”
• Romance : “I have to tell you this. As soon as I saw you from afar, my heart started pounding. When we started talking, it started to beat faster. Later I invite you to drink. a little something?”

Make a great first impression. You want the other person to enjoy the date, but you also want them to like the way you are. Be considerate and gracious without having to put on someone else’s appearance and play someone who is not you. You can allow them to explore you, while trying to retain a bit of mystery.

• Behave politely. Turn off the phone. Check or answer the phone only if you are a doctor. Learn table manners if you’re going on a date in a food court.
• Focus on the appointment; Don’t glance at anyone else, no matter how clever you think you are at this. Do not appear apathetic or thoughtful. Staring blankly into space while the other person is eating or talking is also not good, it makes you look like you just want to get out of there as soon as possible.
• Don’t talk about past relationships. This is taboo and will ruin the job. You will only give the impression that you cannot let go of your ex. If your partner asks, just say that you realize you and your ex aren’t as compatible as you initially thought, so you decided to find someone more suitable to build happiness together. Keep it short and don’t ask about the other person’s ex.

Pick a date that has an element of excitement. Whether it’s rollerblading or watching a vintage car show, a little excitement can make a big difference on a first date. Not only does it give the two of you some entertainment when the conversation goes awry (which is normal), but it also ignites the fire between the two of you. When you engage in a pleasurable activity with your date, your brain releases dopamine and norepinephrine, hormones associated with feelings of pleasure, ^[3] If you can produce a little dopamine and norepinephrine in the opponent, your chances of success will be higher.

Be interested and interesting. Don’t exaggerate or brag about your qualities or successes. Only talk about what you really love in life, what excites you, and what gets you excited every morning when you wake up. Ask the other person what they really love in life, what might spark their interest. Feel the energy shift during the conversation and enjoy the atmosphere.

• Don’t forget to add some humor to the conversation. Humor can create a stronger friendship between two people. Romantic jokes are also good to tell, as it implies a possibility between two people.
• Have a positive attitude. Even if you just had a bad day, you still have to greet that person with a cheerful attitude and a big smile. Don’t show up complaining about traffic jams, difficult bosses, or bad jobs. If you need to whine, just say a few sentences during dinner and end quickly with a dramatic, “Thankfully, you’re here with me now!”.

Don’t drag on your first date for too long. Sometimes, a date goes so smoothly that you want to last forever at all costs. But this is not very good. You should end the date after an hour or two, no matter how well things go. There are many reasons for this:

• Finished on top. How the date begins is not as important as how it ends. If you are with someone for six hours straight, the atmosphere when you say goodbye will not be as exciting as when you first arrived. So you should let the suspense stick around until you meet that person the next time, isn’t that great?
• Do not run at full speed immediately after starting. It takes time to get to know a person. Don’t try to pretend you don’t have to. Limiting time to an hour or two gives the other person some space and doesn’t pressure them in the first place. An hour or two is enough for you to know if you like the person or not.
• This will leave you with a lot to talk about. Having nothing to say to each other on a first date can be disastrous. But the third or fourth date doesn’t have to happen that way. Dates that don’t last too long will keep you from feeling awkward about not knowing what to say.

Avoid overwhelming or obsessive displays of affection. Never call, e-mail or text more than once a day, unless the other person answers. Go on with other activities and show your partner that you have a life other than dating. But don’t act “overpriced” either – it’s important to get over the feeling of “need” to call the other person or “need” to see them again, or “need” to have this relationship. The difference between “need” and “want” is patience.

• Don’t rush to schedule another appointment. The other person (and you too) needs time to consider how he feels about the date and to be ready to accept the other person. After a short period of time (1-7 days), call the other person to express how you are feeling and talk about the next step (like meeting again, meeting more or less, being intimate). more or more formal, termination or continuation of friendship, or any other intention…)

Be honest. If you’re not ready for a committed relationship, you need to let your partner know right away so you don’t give them false hope. If you’re no longer interested in the relationship, tell them so. Don’t let them misunderstand. Explain that it’s just because you don’t see the relationship going anywhere. Don’t say you want to be friends with them, unless you really want to be friends and see them often. If you really want to see your partner more often, honesty is still the key to a healthy relationship!

Be mature in love affairs. No matter how old you are, behave in a mature manner. If you just want to date for fun, say so in the first place. However, perhaps you want more than that. Show your partner that you value honesty, communication, and respect. Those are the qualities that make you attractive to others.

• Emotional maturity also manifests itself in sexual patience. If you’re just looking for a sexual relationship with the other person, you should find some appropriate way to say it. If not, don’t force them. Wait for that to happen naturally. You may have to wait through multiple dates just to get one hope.

Don’t push yourself too hard and just let things come naturally. Learn to relax and keep your own substance. If this date progresses to a deeper and more serious relationship, your uniqueness will become a fond memory for your “other half”. We all love simple sweet gestures or wonderful memories that can bring us warmth or a smile.