How to Confess Love Without Fear of Rejection

Take some time to prepare before going to talk to them. Preparation always helps. You can’t just walk into an exam room without studying, or take a driver’s license test without first practicing driving. Those who put time and effort into winning the person they like will have a higher chance of success.

• Try to strike a balance to avoid over-preparedness. Your crush loves getting more attention from you, but they don’t want to feel like you’ve been thinking about them every second of the past three days. That’s a bit weird even if it’s true!

Take some time to relax first. Breathe deeply and practice to let the whole body fall into a state of softness. Sometimes this is easier to do when you are in private. Relax in bed before you go to sleep, when you get home, or in the shower.

Think before you speak. You can overcome stress or eliminate it altogether by taking the time to consider your options. Practice at home before you actually approach the person, and you won’t fall into a moment of awkward silence. Don’t rush, especially if you want to impress someone important to you.

• Practice in front of the mirror. You have to know what you’re going to say, but don’t say it like you’ve rehearsed it. Imagine different situations where you had the opportunity to talk to someone you like, and rehearse in front of a mirror. The more prepared you are, the more confident you will be in the conversation.
• Speak in a fun way. Sure, you have to practice speaking in serious situations, but it can also be silly to make both of you laugh. The less serious you act, the more natural you will be when the time comes.

Learn a little about them. Take the time to find out what pictures they have in their notebooks, what they eat for lunch, or what sport they like to play. Knowing these small but important details will help you to start the conversation later. You can say things like:

• “I noticed those movies in your notebook. I really like 80s movies. Do you like any movies?”
• Well, me and my friends are going to the soccer field after school. Would you like to join?”

Find creative ways to boost your confidence. One of the reasons you fear rejection is because it hurts your confidence. Don’t let that happen. It’s crazy to let your confidence be shaken by just one person. Much of your confidence should come from how you think about yourself. So you need to find ways to boost your confidence before you start getting to know the person you like. That way you will become more attractive in the eyes of the other person, and will not fall down if something bad happens.

• Look at your personal wall on Facebook. Many studies show that just looking at a personal wall on Facebook for 3 minutes can significantly boost self-confidence. ^[1] Worth a try!
• Spend time with dad. Research also shows that children who spend more time with their father during adolescence become more confident than children who spend less time with their father. ^[2] Note: It’s probably best to hang out with your dad for hours before talking to someone you like. The goal is to get the best results.

Don’t care about the results. What does it mean? That means you have to put yourself in a position where you don’t care if they like you back or not. Why is this important? It is important for two reasons. That mindset helps you deal with rejection, which is ultimately the obstacle you’re trying to overcome. (If you’re certain that you won’t get rejected while confessing your feelings, then there’s no point in trying.) Second, it helps you have a healthier relationship with the person you like. Instead of portraying your crush as a superhero who will save your world, treat them like an ordinary but special person.

• You will say, What? How can I do that? I can’t even control that . Maybe you have no control. But sometimes when we think about our loved one too much, and imagine life with them, that’s when we begin to develop an unhealthy relationship with that imaginary person. This imaginary relationship becomes so unhealthy that we cannot imagine life without them, all of which not even the person knows.
• If you don’t care about the results, confidence will increase. This is a charm to a lot of people. You don’t feel that being rejected by any girl or boy is a big deal, and so you can just shrug it off. Your confidence outweighs their rejection.