How to Build Trust in a Relationship

Maintain a daily routine. Many people believe that changing things up often helps create a good relationship. In other words, they always plan new things to surprise their lover. While surprises are great at times, stability and regularity are far more important in a relationship. Regularity may sound boring, but you need to make sure the other person doesn’t find you unpredictable in order to build a long-term relationship. Feelings of predictability help build trust. ^[7]

Become a trustworthy person. Trust is another way of saying that you can trust someone. You always trust your lover in everything no matter what happens. This trust creates security in the relationship. So make sure your lover can trust you too. ^[8]

• If you say you’ll be there at 5 p.m., you should make sure you keep your promise, or at least let your partner know when you can’t be on time because something is going on. The most important thing here is to stay stable. If four times out of five dates, you don’t show up on time and don’t inform your lover, then your needs are more important than your lover’s. A happy, good relationship is when both parties make an effort to fulfill their commitments.

Say what you think. Your lover can read your mind better than anyone else. If you lie or try to hide your true feelings by not speaking your mind, your partner will quickly notice. Your lover may think you are cheating on them. If the person can believe what you say without hesitation, then you have built a solid trust in their heart. ^[9]

Tell the truth. Don’t hide anything, you shouldn’t keep it a secret from that person. Sooner or later the truth will come out and the consequences of not being honest will be to lose trust and ruin your relationship.

Share your feelings. Many people never let their lovers know what they need. Don’t leave your partner wondering or trying to guess what they should do for you. This is an important thing that you and your lover should do together. If only one person is working hard for the other, they may feel exhausted or the other person will become superficial. Both of these conditions are not conducive to the relationship.

Say “no” from time to time. You should listen to your partner’s needs and try to meet them, but sometimes saying “no” is just as necessary. You can’t always accommodate everything and you really get respect by refusing to do something every now and then. Staying grounded and controlling your intentions can increase trust between the two of you.

Believe in his or her abilities. If you believe that the person is not competent in what they do, your beliefs will not be strong. When this is the case, you need to raise the issue with the person sincerely and lovingly. This will help you solve problems and help you both maintain trust.

Trust that person. How can someone trust you when you don’t trust them? Trust must be built from both sides and if only one person makes an effort, there will be no good results.

• This is your chance to learn how to show weakness. Trust in someone often comes from your inner feelings. In other words, if you often feel insecure about something, this will affect your relationship in a negative way. Therefore, you should trust your lover until they actually do something that makes you unable to continue.

Trust even when you’re not sure. One sign of lack of trust is that you often think of the worst that could happen in each situation. When your partner doesn’t answer your phone, it doesn’t mean they’re cheating on you. When you trust your partner, you trust them even when you’re not sure. Everyone has the opportunity to have their work explained before drawing conclusions. Only then can things be viewed objectively. ^[10]

Don’t check your lover’s phone. Do you two share phone passwords with each other? Otherwise it is a sign of lack of trust. While privacy is important, that doesn’t mean your phone should be strictly protected from your lover. If you have real trust, your lover will respect your privacy even if they have access to the phone. However, if there are other issues, such as you feel that the person calling your lover could threaten your relationship, then it is definitely a trust issue that you need to deal with.