How to Become an alpha male

Develop new skills. By learning and developing new skills and expertise, a clear mind and a fit body will be your gift. People will always want to come to you with questions because you are a complete person. To become an elite man, you need to care not only about style but also research and become a proficient expert in the fields of interest. You can learn to box, build a barn, walk with two hands, perform a round kick, survive in the jungle or win a fight on the street. Grow your mind by learning about architecture, painting and music.

Be consistent when answering the question: who am I? Evaluate every aspect of yourself and accept that. Never try to hide or change yourself just to please others. Instead, show the best version of yourself.

• Highlight your difference. Are you passionate about any field? Do as much research as you can. Are you in a manual wheelchair? That means you have the opportunity to practice your arms every day. If you’re gay, be a confident gay guy too. Don’t let anyone make you feel bad about yourself.
• You will find that you also have some bad habits, such as not being assertive enough or being critical of others. Tell yourself, “We all have flaws. That doesn’t mean I’m not good. I’m improving and will become better.”
• A trustworthy man won’t let himself be confined to narrow definitions of masculinity. The insecure man may feel he has to be 100% manly all the time. But a confident man won’t be afraid to wear pink clothes, bake cakes, cry when needed, play with girls or do other “girly” things as long as he likes it. If other people think it’s unworthy of a man… that’s their problem. As long as he knows he’s a man.

Be mindful of your responsibilities. Alpha men are not lazy and never let other people care about their business. Fulfill your family obligations, group projects or any other social responsibility. Don’t say, “If I don’t do it, someone else will”. Be proactive.

Become confident. This is no exaggeration, but if you appreciate yourself and believe in your abilities, both men and women will reciprocate you. ^[3] Don’t confuse confidence with arrogance. Confidence is expressed through calm inner strength, bravery and a sense of reliability. And arrogance is just self-deprecation that shows up, people will only see a guy who is empty, unreliable and completely opposite of alpha men.

Find a few ideals. The ideal type is someone who is confident, talented, polite and kind to everyone. Find someone you admire in terms of qualities and observe how they behave in different situations.

• Observe how they talk, walk, and behave. Alpha men usually stand up straight and walk comfortably and confidently.
• Observe their appearance such as hair, ears, clothes. Alpha men are often interested in fashion and know how to coordinate clothes to look eye-catching.

Listen. Alpha men – true leaders – often listen more than talk. As long as you actively and attentively listen, people will respond. The more you listen without judgment, the more people will open up, feel confident, and even tell you things they’ve never told anyone before. This is typical of alpha males.

• Think everyone has something interesting to learn. An elite man will always learn new things and strengthen his skills.
• Agree with other people’s feelings when they open up to you. They will feel more positive and happy that they have talked to the right person. This is a great way to show compassion—an important quality for all leaders.

Be nice to people even if you get nothing in return. Show respect when talking to children, the elderly, the homeless, and people with disabilities (it doesn’t matter if they are as capable as others). Incompetent men often ignore or be rude to others and flatter those who can benefit him. A truly elite man will treat equally those of a “lower” social status, he believes that everyone has dignity and deserves respect.

• No discrimination. Ignore stereotypes about women, people of color, religion/ethnicity, people with disabilities, the poor, the obese, and other marginalized groups.

Share tips with others. While incompetent men often devalue others, brave men always want to share their skills and confidence with people to help them improve. He always encourages and celebrates the success of others.

• Alpha men can even mentor some people and take pride in their success.

Use humor to your advantage. This doesn’t mean you have to make fun of the whole room, just smile sincerely, make fun of yourself, and even make fun of others without being sarcastic or cynical.

• The right joke can sometimes relieve a stressful situation.
• When joking, you should pay attention to the other person’s insecurities. Only joke about the aspect where you know the other person is confident. For example, if your little sister is proud of her cute little figure, you can tease her that she’s really a dwarf mushroom. But if she feels insecure about it then you should choose another side to tease.

Show appreciation for the efforts of others. Let’s say you see them working hard and very well. Thank others when they do something for you and praise the project they have worked so hard on.

Be honest. Some people think that alpha men will not go through any tricks to get what they want, this notion is wrong. If you feel like you need to trick someone into thinking you’re worth their time and effort, it’s going to prove that you’re not . You need to deserve everything you have by being thoroughly sincere. Always be yourself ^[4] ; people will accept you.

• Don’t hide your purpose. Just let others know what you want.
• You need to know the difference between being honest and being “straight as a horse”. Sometimes it’s better to be blunt (e.g., “I think the blue dress suits you better”) than to tell the harsh truth (e.g., “you’re so ugly in this dress”).
• Strive to be worthy of the trust of others. Blindness, reasonlessness, and mediocrity are not the virtues of a great leader.

Show empathy. A great man usually cares about people and isn’t afraid to show it. He will take the time to listen, reflect on the other person’s point of view, and be willing to help when they are in trouble.

Above all, be a leader . Just being responsible is not enough, you need to be able to handle the situation well. Start with your surroundings by being a leader at work, supporting your team’s progress, or simply teaching your dog to obey you. Practice being the kind of leader people want to follow, not just the first to volunteer. ^[5]

Learn to flirt . Knowing how to turn a relationship into love is a strategic element of being seen as an alpha male. While being confident, multi-talented, and attractive aren’t the most important factors for interacting with a potential lover, they will be to your advantage.

• If you want to prove to someone who is a “friend” that you are Mr. Right of them, refer to how to get out of the friendzone.
• Make your intentions clear. Don’t assume that other people can read your mind. They need to know that you care.
• Learn how to spot signs someone likes you too. If you’re successful in flirting, your partner will turn to you, smile/laugh, use open body language, and enjoy talking to each other. If the person doesn’t like you, they will turn away, look uncomfortable or bored, use closed body language, and don’t talk much.

Accept the denial. Running after someone who said “no” will make you look miserable, and the other person will also be upset or scared. End the conversation politely, smiling to let them know that you won’t be too upset about this decision and move on to someone more suitable.

• You should remember that there are many reasons for someone not to like you. Maybe they already have a boyfriend, they’re just not ready to date anyone right now, you just don’t fit (she’s a lesbian, for example) or you just aren’t their type. No problem. You will not arbitrarily date anyone on the street because you also have your own taste. So are others.
• Suppress feelings of entitlement. A bad man may complain about women not giving him a chance. But the elite man knows that no one owes him anything so he can move on. In life, it is normal to experience frustration from time to time. But that’s no reason to be rude.

Show love to your partner. Never let your spouse doubt your feelings. Find ways to show care: physical contact, doing something for them, spending time with your partner, compliments, and so on. Show them that you appreciate and need them in your life.

Don’t be afraid to show weakness. It takes a lot of strength for people to show their inner feelings and talk about their difficulties. At that time, your partner will have the opportunity to help and show you care.