How to Be a “Bad Boy”

Understand yourself. Most of the advice in the above section requires you to have a high level of self-confidence and self-awareness. If you don’t possess these basic principles, it will be difficult or even impossible for you to become a real bad boy. Ask yourself, “Are these situations worrying me?” and that “have I really tried my best?”. If you don’t like your own answers, follow these steps to build healthy self-confidence. You will be able to quickly become a real bad boy.

Become balanced. You don’t have to be like a bodybuilder to be a bad boy, but you do need to be healthy. Scientific evidence has shown that exercise has a positive effect on self-esteem and can help prevent the development of depression. Exercise has immediate (through the release of endorphins that reduce stress levels) and long-term effects (through an improvement in self-awareness and overall balance). body) ^[2] . Exercise shouldn’t be ignored – get to the gym now, don’t wait until tomorrow.

• One study found that moderate-intensity aerobic exercise led to immediate psychological improvements. ^[3] However, any exercise routine that can improve your physical health will also make you more attractive to yourself and to others.
• For tips on how to form an exercise routine, check out our other articles in the same category.

Strive to win. Take action regularly to get you closer to your career or personal goals. You don’t have to be rich to have high confidence, but you do need to be proud of yourself. Hard work and constant success will make you feel valuable and important – the foundation of a confident personality.

• Everyone (including bad boys) is often affected by failure. If you’re having trouble in your career or in your personal life, focus on solving the problem – by persevering through it, you’ll be able to build a stronger character. Do not give up!

Do the things you enjoy. Allow yourself to enjoy the things you enjoy. You don’t have to spend a lot of money to raise your self-worth – you just have to cook a dish you love, enjoy your favorite drink in moderation, and take the time to pursue your hobbies. . If you get to do what you love, you will automatically become happier, and when you feel happier, you will become more confident.

Solve personal psychological problems. Sometimes, lack of confidence is ingrained in your blood. Childhood abuse and traumatic experiences can form psychological problems throughout your life and can negatively affect your self-esteem. ^[4] Seek treatment to address any issues that are affecting you mentally or emotionally. There are a variety of treatments you can choose from, including counseling, biofeedback, and prescribed medication.

• Remember that seeking help with psychological problems is a sign of strength, not weakness. Real men don’t ignore their personal problems, they find ways to solve them. Sometimes, this means they will need the help of others. Don’t feel embarrassed when you have to go to a counselor or therapist – according to recent statistics from the Central Institute of Mental Health, about 15-20% of the Vietnamese population has experienced mental health problems. psychiatric treatments. ^[5]

Understand your own desires. A bad guy will know well what he wants from his lover and he will also be honest about it (refer to step six in Part One). You don’t have to be ashamed to pursue a healthy sexual relationship as long as you are completely sincere about it. Likewise, officially having a girlfriend doesn’t mean you’re less likely to become spoiled. Here are a few tips on how you can deal with a relationship like a real bad boy.

Have a life of your own. When you’re in a relationship, you shouldn’t dedicate your life to the person you love. Even if you’re married, make your own plans. Make time for friends. If you are a valuable person, your time in your presence will be appreciated by your partner. Conversely, if you are constantly present regardless of when your partner needs you, your presence time will be less valuable. Don’t be a softie when it comes to love – make sure you’re not so devoted to your partner that you completely forget about yourself.

Be complacent. Being in a relationship with someone doesn’t mean you have to worship them. Make fun of them! A little bit of back-and-forth will keep the passion and heat of your relationship alive. This is what a confident “alpha” guy is – you’re letting your partner know that you don’t mind having a bit of a fight. ^[6] Think about it – do you really want to be the boyfriend of someone you have to be nice to all the time?

• Do not tease too cruelly. Avoid using topics your lover doesn’t like – for example, her looks or her career. Be playful in moderation.
• Prepare yourself to receive teasing from the other side – don’t start if you can’t stand it!
• If you accidentally hurt the other person’s feelings, apologize sincerely. Remember, bad boys are honest guys – if you really want to apologize, let your partner know. Don’t think that you don’t need to apologize in situations where the other person deserves an apology just because you want to sound spoiled. This action is not “spoiled” – it is simply a bad move.

Be the “in charge” of the relationship. This does not mean that you can control your lover or deny her the power to make decisions. Instead, it means you should be someone who can make decisions in the right situations and you should always have a plan in mind. For example, if you’re going out, find a place early and make a phone call to reserve a table. Take her hand and lead her through the crowd without consulting her. Kiss her at the right time. Show her that you understand what you want for yourself as well as for her. Talk about topics you’re passionate about. Talk about your family, or about an event that makes you think of family. Do not gossip; Have a sincere conversation, and let your lover know that you are not only the breadwinner of the family, but also a rather sensitive person.

Create surprise. For a long-term relationship, it’s easy to realize that after a while, things work out like a certain habit. However, you can still make an effort to perform spontaneous actions from time to time. Plan a weekend trip when you both have free time. Surprise her by giving her concert tickets when she wakes up. Breaking certain habits will make your relationship fresher and more interesting.

• It sounds paradoxical that you need to plan in order to be able to do “spontaneous” activity. However, it’s essential – nothing can be worse than randomly deciding to go shopping but eventually realizing that the mall is closed. And anyway, going shopping is not a normal behavior of bad boys.
• Remember that the goal of spontaneity is not to rush your lover with gifts. Maintain your worth – if you don’t know what to do, plan activities that you enjoy. You will enjoy doing those things, and your happiness will spread to your partner.