How to Find a Good Man

Be yourself . The first time you meet someone, it may be your natural reflex to act as someone else to “show your best side”. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to make a good impression, but you can go too far and backfire and alienate guys from you. The same is true of the myth of glamorous dressing and excessive flirting. If you don’t respect your body, you will only attract guys who also disrespect you, and a good guy will have a hard time taking you seriously. Be yourself, and a real man will appreciate you.

Have a life of your own. Hopeless, painful and dependent relationships often stem from a feeling of longing for a man to fill life. Even if you don’t respect yourself enough, keep trying, and your self-esteem will improve over time. Pursue your goals and focus on them, discover your passions, live an exciting life, do things that can push you to the limit. Don’t act tough to hide your shyness; gradually learn to build trust in social relationships, so your boyfriend isn’t the only one you open up to and share your life with. And first, believe in yourself. If you can’t trust yourself, you won’t be able to trust your man either.

Be relaxed and calm . Almost no man likes his lover to be moody, controlling, possessive, etc. Learn to relax and cheer up. We all have many things to worry about in life; so don’t make a fuss about it. Men will lose interest if the woman next to them is always causing trouble instead of bringing joy in life. Gestures like showing genuine concern for your lover after a tiring day will earn you his respect and win his heart, and a good man will reciprocate yours. Remember that most men, especially good ones, are looking for someone they can feel comfortable around, without stressing them out all the time.

Recognize differences in communication. Men often don’t recognize the subtle signals that their partner sends in body language. Don’t judge a guy in this respect; Men are usually like that. Invisible gestures like a smile will only make a man think you might like them without daring to assume that you actually like him for fear of being seen as egotistical. To lead him, you have to step by step “clear” body language like, playfully touching his arm, teasing, winking, telling jokes only insiders can understand, joking Play with, or tickle him (when you get to know him better). (Don’t be afraid of such small acts of mischief – women who expect perfection from men are often not very attractive in their eyes.) Your flirting gestures will not only let the guy know that you like him, but it will also break down the physical barrier, making him more comfortable when flirting with you. Before that, however, don’t forget to note his reaction.

Consider yourself. Psychological studies show that people often look for a partner to fill an emotional void. Sometimes these gaps are not healthy; For example, there are women who look for any man to prove their “fatal charm” or just to get noticed and feel wanted by men. Examine your inner self and ask yourself why you need a man so much. Be honest with yourself, and if necessary, talk to a therapist about it. Problem women will only attract problem men, and a real man won’t want to get involved with troublesome women. If you want to have a good relationship with a good man, you must ensure that your mental state and goals are healthy.

Don’t use tricks. No one likes the person next to them always playing a game of “mind”. This behavior is deceptive and will hurt those who trust you. Be sincere, don’t play tricks, and good men will respect you, maybe even pursue you. Do you still remember the principles of communication? This is very true here. If you like a guy, don’t push him away and act like you don’t like him. Please tell him. Yes, some guys like the thrill of chasing girls, but all good men respect you and your wishes; They won’t bother you. Remember, men usually communicate in a direct way; If you act like you don’t like him, he’ll think it’s real.

Respect him in manners. This is the most important part. Men hate being around people who make them lose their “masculine spirit,” and good men don’t waste time around people like that. Don’t be afraid to help your man feel good about himself. A little secret: Men, like women, feel a lack of confidence sometimes. If you give him the opportunity to “be a man” in front of friends and family, you will win his heart and respect.

Don’t be afraid to take the initiative. Let’s be real: an ideal man wouldn’t beg any girl; they also dream of an ideal woman. At least he’ll appreciate it when you compliment him. But keep in mind that compliments are usually reserved for people you know – close people often behave more naturally with playful jokes and teasing. Think about the relationship between siblings, between parents and children, especially between couples – they often joke around, laugh, tease, flirt happily. A woman who only says compliments is often seen as boring and seems like too much of a desire. Even if you’re the old-fashioned type and don’t want to be a snob, you can still take the initiative to talk to someone you like and arrange to be with him. But don’t go overboard; unless the guy has been attracted to you before, the harder you try without his encouragement, the more desperate and unattractive you will seem. You should try to create attraction first.

Respect yourself. If you say “no”, he will stop. If he doesn’t stop, leave. Never be afraid to say “no” when necessary. Don’t go against your moral standards just to keep a man. If you feel like it’s impossible not to do so, maybe he’s either not a good man, or he’s nice but just not right for you (i.e. he has a lot of options at once and doesn’t hide it). earn it, but you want to find a serious and faithful relationship). Don’t be afraid to nod. If you feel the time is right, believe in your worth and don’t worry that you’re “depreciating.” Respect yourself and be confident that he will love you even more! A man who doesn’t respect you after the fun will never respect you later; on the other hand, if that man can’t wait for your will then they are not patient enough to make a good mate. Either way, you should go find someone else.

Follow the “golden rule”. This means you need to apply the same rule to yourself and to everyone else, including him. Good men are very observant; They just don’t say it. For example, if a guy says he has a girlfriend and their relationship is going nowhere, you should stop! Think of it as a “test” of how you handle the situation, so stand your ground and cut off contact (stick to the golden rule). For example, if you tease and tickle him, don’t get upset that he does the same to you. Don’t say things like “What do you need a man for!” Or complain “men like that, men like that” if you don’t want him to treat you that way. Treat him – and others as well – with respect, dignity and honor. People around will notice this, and who knows – if they know you’re looking for a real man but haven’t found one, they’ll recommend you one!

Do not cling. This means that you don’t show your love by hanging around your lover all the time. He needs his space and needs to know that you don’t ask to be with them all the time. Most of all, he has to know that you have your own life, too.

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