How to Have Good Manners

Use your phone only in the right context. For example, it is rude to use the phone in the restroom, in the middle of a meeting, when a service worker is helping you, in church, or (sometimes) on public transit. . If you feel awkward using it or people are looking at you angrily, you should put it away.

• When talking on the phone in public, you should remember that everything you say will no longer be your private matter. You should keep your voice “indoor” or lower. In general, people with good manners do not talk about potentially embarrassing issues in public.
• When on the phone, don’t talk to other people in the room. There’s nothing worse than talking on the phone to the person you’re chatting with, or perhaps not listening to what you have to say, and you can’t tell if they’re talking to you or someone else. If someone tries to talk to you, just point at your phone and they will understand the message.
• Avoid using the computer while on the phone unless it is part of customer service. This is extremely rude and annoying when someone forces you to listen to the clicking sound of the keyboard.
• When you’re with others in a social setting, you should try to refrain from using your phone. It implies that you want to be elsewhere, with other people, and that the person you are with is less important.
• Avoid calling before 8 am and after 8 pm unless it is an urgent call or an important call from abroad. In addition, you should also avoid calling others during mealtime, work and school hours. People don’t expect you to visit them at these times, unless it’s planned in advance. This includes texting, although you certainly won’t text in an emergency.

Make sure you have the correct phone number. If you annoy someone and call the wrong number, ‘please’ politely say “I’m sorry! I called the wrong number!”. DO NOT simply hang up. That person may be someone who is sick, disabled, or elderly, etc., so you should respect and apologize for the inconvenience caused to them. Similarly, if someone calls you the wrong number, you need to politely let them know that they dialed the wrong number.

Test your voice! It means more than just a tune, and reflects your character and personality even on the phone! Remember: your listeners can’t see you, so your voice over the phone becomes your facial expression, gestures, personality, and features. Always remember to check your tone when you’re talking, speaking in a clear, cheerful voice. Smiling through voice! What they hear will form a positive or negative impression.

Practice basic politeness in conversation. When someone answers the phone, don’t be rude and interrupt them by telling them what you want first. This will leave them confused and wondering who you are. At the same time, you also look rude, and this is not a good thing if you need to ask them for help. It will leave the wrong impression before you even start! And don’t say “Who is it?”. You call them, so you need to introduce yourself and state who you are and what you want – politely! For example; you can say “Hi, my name is Nam, I would like to talk to Ms. Mai. Is she there?” If the person is not available, you should let the person receiving the call know if you will call back later or if the person should call you back. Or if you’re making a request, you can say “Hi, I’m Nam. I saw an ad in the local newspaper about hiring a sales assistant; Is that position still vacant? At the end, say “Thanks for your help. Hello” and do it sincerely! Now, make sure you give them time to say ‘Goodbye’ too!

Give the other person a chance to answer the phone! Maybe they’re out in the garden, knitting, baking, washing the car, or at the back of the house. Don’t simply let the phone ring three times and hang up! It’s annoying when you have to stop doing something and when you put the phone to your ear, the other person hangs up! On the other hand, don’t let the phone ring for too long, the person you’re calling may be busy or don’t want to take the call at the moment and you’re just annoying them. Especially when calling with a mobile phone, and the recipient is in a meeting, in the cinema, etc.

Don’t spend an hour (or hours) chatting with someone. Don’t waste other people’s time or bother their families! This is one of the biggest losers in having a friendly conversation! The person probably won’t want to talk to you again.

Know how to answer the phone. Just cheerfully and politely say “Hello”. Avoid saying “Good afternoon, here is An” or “Mai An is talking”. Today’s society is very dangerous. If you are home alone and you do not know the person calling you, do not tell them that no one is at home or that your husband is at work, etc. Always remember to pretend that someone is with you. You need to use old fashioned wit and basic thinking! Keep yourself safe!

• If the call is for someone else, you can say “Wait a minute, I’ll give them a call.” Gently place the phone on the table. If the person they’re looking for isn’t available, you can say, “Sorry, Sang isn’t here. Can I jot down a message and ask her to call you back as soon as possible?”

Ask the other person to hold the phone politely. If you have to do two conversations at once, you need to apologize to yourself for interrupting one and come back later. You can say “Sorry, wait a minute; boss is talking to me”, and wait for the other person to answer. If the personal conversation lasts longer than a minute, it’s best to ask, “Can I call you back? My mom needs to talk to me and it will take a few minutes.”

• In case you need to go to the bathroom, you can say something to stop the conversation without sharing too much information. Just say “Can you hang on for a few minutes? I’ll be right back”.

Do not open your mouth when chewing food. This is an obvious principle, but one that is easy to forget while enjoying a delicious meal.

Say “excuse me” every time you need to leave the table. If you are a child or minor, you can ask an adult for permission “can you leave the table for (add reasons here)”.

Have someone else pick up your plate of food or condiments for you. Never reach across a plate of food or someone else’s plate to grab something; Instead, politely ask the person sitting next to you to “get me the sauce, please”.

Avoid resting your elbows on the table while eating (according to British and American culture). Resting your elbows on the table during a meal is an action that is often prompted. However, if the meal has not yet begun or is finished, you can rest your elbows on the table.

• In French culture, this is acceptable behavior.

Know how to manage in a casual or formal context. One of the scariest parts about the dinner process is not knowing which plates or utensils to use. Here is a short guide:

• If you forget something specific, remember: “go from the outside in”. Essentially, this means that if both the left and right sides of the plate have utensils, you’ll start with the leftmost and rightmost objects, and work your way up into the right position. closer to the disc.
• If all else fails, you just have to observe the actions of others.
• For a casual setting, the plate of food will be placed in the middle.
  • Just to the left of the plate will be two forks – the one closest to the plate will be the “main fork” used for the main course; The one furthest from the plate is used for salads or appetizers.
  • The main knife will be located directly to the right of the plate, with the blade facing the plate; Next to it are two spoons. The soup spoon is on the far right; The dessert spoon (or tea spoon) is located between the soup spoon and the knife.
  • Your glass will be placed directly above the main knife. The replacement cup is located on the right.
  • A small salad plate can be placed to the left of the forks.
  • A small fork for eating bread will be placed on the top left of the main plate, with a small butter knife. Use a butter knife to spread some butter and place it on your plate; then use a knife to spread “your” butter on the bread.
  • The dessert spoon or fork lies horizontally above the main plate.
  • A shallow cup and saucer (if you drink coffee or tea) will be on the right side of the knife and spoon.
• Know how to manage in a formal context. The formal context will be roughly similar to the casual context, with a few exceptions:
  • You will have a small fish fork between the main fork and the plate, if serving fish.
  • A fish knife will sit between the main knife and the soup spoon, if you need to use it for fish dishes.
  • You will also be provided with an oyster fork located on the far right of the eating applicator to the right of the plate, if you will be eating oysters.
  • The cups are arranged depending on the type of formal setting. The glass just above the knife is your drinking glass; To the right of it is a red or white wine glass, and then a sherry glass on the far right.

Hold eating utensils. How you need your eating utensils will be up to you. Both of the following methods are suitable. In general, there are two styles:

• American Style: If you’re cutting food, you’ll switch the fork to your non-dominant hand and hold the knife in your dominant hand. After cutting the food, you will place the blade at the edge of the plate, and change the fork to your dominant hand to put the food in your mouth.
• European style: The fork stays in the left hand, while you use the right hand to hold the knife and cut the food. Once you’re done, you’ll either place the blade at the edge of the plate, or just hold it in your hand.