How To Let Someone Go

Let yourself be felt. First, mourning is good. Sensitivity is good. Crying is good. Anger is also a good thing. No matter how you feel, it’s normal and needs to be released. After the emotional hiding phase has ended, the process can begin. But the process of giving up on a person is certainly a sequential process, and the emotional hiding stage (also known as the “crying while eating the whole jar of ice cream” phase or the “dyeing your hair” phase). strange colors that don’t suit the working environment”) must happen first.Let’s just let it happen.

• The first thing you feel will likely be a feeling of denial, followed by anger. At first you may not accept this as real and once you do, the words and words will create feelings of helplessness and pain. Instead of tormenting yourself about the breakup and how you coped with it, remember that this is how things are supposed to be. Those feelings are a part of you. You are not crazy, nor are you useless. You are just an ordinary human being.

Don’t embellish the past. You may find yourself recalling the wonderful moments you two had together. You will recall them as a lost memory when lying in bed alone. But if that person comes back to you, 10 minutes later you’ll be thinking, “Yes. That ‘s why it didn’t work.” It’s hard to remember bad things when your emotions are so intense. Remember that if you are sadly recalling great memories, you are not seeing the problem realistically.

• If you need science to back up that claim, remember that emotions have been shown to affect memory. So if you are desperately looking for good things, your mind can make new changes to meet your current expectations. ^[1] Simply put, your memory is wearing pink prisms to respond to your current thought process.

Isolate yourself as much as possible. “Give up” is an understatement to avoid forgetting or not caring anymore. This phrase sounds a bit harsh, and that’s why it has a more pleasant name. So, isolating yourself from that person is the only way you can quickly forget. Do you remember that shirt you found in the corner of your closet that made you say, “God, I love this shirt! Why didn’t I realize it was forgotten?” That’s right, far away from the heart.

• Certainly for a lot of people, this is easier said than done. However, you can try to limit the amount of time you spend face-to-face with the person. Use this as an excuse to find a new passion, a cool place, or a new group of friends to ask out every once in a while. Don’t change your life for that person, but also try to think of the best for yourself.

Don’t lower yourself. Once you’ve gotten angry and sworn to yourself that you’ll never be that stupid again, you may end up spending days, weeks, or an endless amount of time wondering where you went wrong and feeling like you’ve gone wrong. wandering through the misty fog. You may crave to be inactive, but you cannot do so. You must not do so, for your own sake. To make your world a better place, you need to keep moving forward.

• This is when you do all you need to do. At this point, yourself is the first priority. Do whatever makes you happy (that doesn’t hurt, of course). Just party and enjoy. If you can’t talk to your friends because someone stole her ham sandwich at work, leave it alone. You need time to be selfish. The “mantra” for you right now is “me, me, me”. Why? Because you are awesome.

Don’t blame it all on people. You will get through this stage quickly (at which point the “me, me, me” phase needs to be replaced by the “me, you, me, you” phase) and the last thing you want is to hate the whole world. Being frustrated and criticizing doesn’t mean you’re “learning from experience” but more like giving up. Try to see the good in everyone. Those points are always present in them, only sometimes they are hidden.

• Not all men are scum and not all women are evil. You may have a tendency to attract scum and sinister people, but that should stop there. Look closely at the people around you – how many different types of people can you find? Definitely a lot. That’s why people are so diverse.

Stop negative thoughts. What’s interesting about your soul is that those thoughts are part of who you are and can be controlled. If negative thoughts start to appear, you have the power to stop them. The thought you just started can end in an instant. Sometimes you’ll need a few tricks, but it’s completely doable.

• Speak your negative thoughts in the voice of a cartoon character, such as Donald Duck. Try saying “I hate myself for being so stupid” in the duck’s voice. Wouldn’t it be hard for you to take that thought seriously?
• Try to keep your head up. When you hold your head high, your body will be reminded that you are present and full of pride. When you lower your head, your shame center will be activated and you will feel worse. This small movement can have a huge impact.

Find friends. The best people you can count on right now are your “network” of supportive friends. They will help you forget everything and move on. Don’t be afraid to ask them for help because they may have been in the same situation you are now.

• Ask them to help you not wallow in sadness. Sure, you need to talk about your feelings, but only for a limited time. Ask them to listen to you for about 15 minutes, but after that, you don’t have to make pointless analyzes and regrets. They will help keep you from drowning in your pain.

Find out who you are and learn to love it. The truth is that you are amazing and this is only a small disadvantage. It’s likely that you’ve been in this emotional state before and got over it, so why not this time? If you have recovered once, you can also recover a second time. You have very good resilience, you just forget about it. Just keep living and you’ll forget.

• When you stop moving on with your life, you won’t be able to forget. When you really live (seeking opportunities, enjoying life, doing the things you love, and being with the people you love), you will automatically give up without even realizing it. Think about who you are before this. What do you love? What made you who you are now? How wonderful were you?