How to deal with a girl who doesn’t love you

Avoid contact with her. You will need space for the wound to heal. If you love a girl and she doesn’t love you, you can’t just pretend to be friends. You guys aren’t friends: she’s the one you love. So until you are really done with the love affair, you need to avoid contacting her if it is not necessary. ^[4]

• Consider deleting her phone number to avoid calling/texting her.
• Stay away from places you know she frequents.
• This means you will be absent from certain parties or gatherings, but you should.
• If it is absolutely necessary to see her (say, the two of you work at the same company), keep your communication brief and professional.

Avoid accessing her personal page. In today’s technology era, we can communicate with friends extremely easily and quickly. Unfortunately that also means you can see the girl-who doesn’t-love-you incredibly easily and quickly. No matter how much you want to, you should avoid accessing her personal page on social networks. You should even block her (at least temporarily). You need space for wounds to heal, and you won’t be able to do that if you’re watching someone’s every move. ^[5] To avoid seeing her online (online), you can:

• Limit your use of social media.
• Unfollow her.
• Avoid accessing your profile in general.
• If you happen to meet her online, quickly put away your phone (or turn off your computer) and go somewhere else. Don’t let yourself sink so deep that you can’t stop.

Refuse intimate contact. If you already know she doesn’t love you, don’t let her come to you when she needs someone to share her feelings with or for physical closeness. Those tempting invitations will only make you suffer more. If she comes to you, boldly find a way to say no. ^[6]

• You really shouldn’t contact her anyway!
• If she comes to you, just say, “I need some space to myself right now. I think it’s better if we don’t see each other.”

Avoid acts of revenge. Once you accept that she doesn’t love you, you can go from sad to angry. You might want to curse or even think about revenge (her or the person she’s dating). It is completely natural for these thoughts to arise, but acting like that is not okay. Revenge won’t make her fall in love with you, won’t make you as comfortable as you thought it would, and even cause more trouble. Instead, let those thoughts come and go, and you can move forward again. ^[7]

• You should also refrain, do not speak ill of her to your mutual friends, doing so will only make you more ugly.
• At first, you can pour your heart out with a few close, trusted friends. Then try not to talk about her anymore.

Live happily. In order to move on, you need to do something positive to let go of the negative. Try to live happily! You can go out with friends, go dancing, go to karaoke or go on a trip to a place you’ve never been. Even if you’re not in the mood, you still have to force yourself to try, everything may be more fun than you think! ^[8]

Focus on one goal. You can’t control who she loves, the only thing you can control is yourself. Now is the best time to focus on self-improvement. Have you always wanted the opportunity to learn to play the guitar, exercise more, or excel in your studies? This is the time to focus on a new goal. ^[9]