How to Accept Not Being Beautiful

The pressure to always look good is so strong, even a toddler feels stress about it. ^{[1] X Research Source} Maybe you feel like you’re not pretty from time to time, or maybe you feel this way all the time. Either way, feeling unbeautiful is not a reason to refuse to be happy. Learn to admit your insecurities, train yourself to be attractive, and love yourself.

Table of Contents

Examine yourself

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Facing standards of beauty. The way you see yourself is shaped by pressure that has nothing to do with reality. Beauty standards are contradictory and constantly changing. They tend to reflect power imbalances – racism, age discrimination, sexism. When you have negative thoughts about how you look, you should ask yourself: what makes me feel this way? Am I forcing myself to conform to unhealthy standards?

Watching too much TV also makes people hope to change their appearance. ^{[2] X Research Source}
You should understand that some of the features used in advertising have little or no relation to what makes real life appeal.
The shot has been adjusted so that the photographer looks smoother and more balanced. If someone didn’t have wrinkles, excess fat, or asymmetry in real life, they would look scary.
You should know that different beauties are valued according to different standards. For example, fashion models are often quite thin so as not to distract from their outfits.

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Look for role models. Everyone’s appearance is different. You should look for a beautiful person who resembles you. It can be difficult for you to examine yourself when you’re surrounded by people who don’t look like you. You should remember the parable of the ugly duckling: it’s not that he became beautiful when he grew up – it was that he was misjudged as a child. If you want, look for role models that are similar to you so you don’t have to change anything!

Collect pictures of beautiful people who have similar characteristics to you. Look for pictures of people with hair, body shape, skin, eyes, nose, and mouth like you.
See pictures in magazines, in museum catalogs, and on the internet.
Find pictures of people from your ancestral home country.
Search photos of beautiful people from different periods. You will notice that the standard of beauty changes constantly, and is never unique, even within a country or within a year.
Hang photos in your room.
Dress up like one of the beautiful celebrity idols to the masquerade party.

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Accept praise. When a person compliments your beauty, you should believe that they are completely honest with their own opinion. You don’t have to think that you have to look pretty to be noticed by others. You should say “thank you” and give the person a compliment in return.

When someone likes you, you should trust this.
People with low self-esteem often turn down dates because they have trouble accepting the offer. Please agree!
Ask what the person you’re dating likes about you. You will be surprised to learn about the factors that attract them.
You should remember to let them know the trait that makes you love them! Sincere, kind compliments are also very seductive.

Eliminate Negativity

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State your feelings. When bad thoughts and feelings come to you, you should name those feelings. When you realize you’re suffering, ask yourself “why am I feeling so bad all of a sudden?” then look for triggers, such as being bombarded with ads, get angry at friends, hungry or tired. Finally, state how you feel. Recognize thoughts like “I’m so ugly!”, “I have to lose weight,” or “Only beautiful people are happy.” ^{[3] X Trusted Source Mayo Clinic Go to Source}

You don’t have to fight them. Just state them clearly and ignore them.
If they don’t go away, ask them to go away. “Hey, only-beautiful-feeling, go away. I’m tired, and you only show up when I’m tired. However, I’m about to rest and I I don’t want you to bother me with your nonsense.”
You need to love yourself before you try to change anything. Accept how you look and feel. If you try to change or “fix” yourself without first thinking about your worth as a person, you won’t make progress. ^{[4] X Research Sources}
Ask yourself something like “do I deserve to be happy? Is my human nature important?”.
If you can answer yes to every question, you are on the right track.

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Ignore the envious. When others insult you or try to change you, you should stop interacting with them or ignore them. No happy, healthy, or stable person wants to humiliate another person. Instead of insulting them or getting upset, you should end the interaction briefly. You can say something like “baby thing”, or “take a look at yourself”.

Don’t insult yourself by taking the insult seriously, but you should allow yourself to feel the sadness if you want to. Just remind yourself that you’re upset because someone treated you unkindly, and wanted to make you insecure. State your feelings.
Get rid of so-called “friends” who are just trying to make you feel bad about yourself. You should maintain friendships with supportive and kind people.
Don’t get upset when someone gives you beauty advice. Instead, consider making friends with someone who seems to know a lot about hairstyles, makeup, and other beauty topics. Maybe you will enjoy learning about them and you will even become more confident because you have new knowledge in the field of beauty.

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Use love language to describe yourself. When you start criticizing yourself, stop. You should treat yourself the way you would treat your best friend. Would you call the person “ugly” or criticize them? Do you often think about the person’s appearance?

Write a letter to yourself and describe yourself the way a good friend would. Pause when you write about something that seems insincere or forced. Try to write down exactly how your loved one sees you.
You should remember that “ugly” is a word that is rarely used, except for unhappy teenagers or adults experiencing unusual insecurities. If you consider yourself ugly, you will surprise and upset everyone around you.
Ask yourself, do I consider any of my friends ugly?
Unless you’re feeling bad about yourself, you’re less likely to think other people are ugly.

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Seek help from others. If you are really frustrated with yourself, if you cannot accept the way you are feeling, you should seek professional help. You can see your doctor or mental health professional when you have thoughts of harming yourself. If you are depressed, avoid activities you enjoy, are too nervous to socialize or do your job, you should seek help.

See your doctor if your body image doesn’t match what people tell you, or if you spend more than a few minutes a day thinking about how you look. ^{[5] X Research Sources}

Feeling better

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Identify your own passion. Maybe you’ll feel better about life and about yourself if you get to do something you truly love. Take a moment to think about your passion. Write down your thoughts so you can re-read them and use them to develop your talents. Some good writing activities to help you identify your passion include: ^{[6] X Research Sources}

Think about what you wanted to do when you were a kid . What did you like to do when you were little? Do you like to play softball? Draw a picture? Dance? Or join another activity? You should write about something you remember you loved as a child.
Make a list of people you respect . Try to make a list of all the people you admire the most. Write about the aspects you admire about them and how you can convert them to your passion.
Imagine the action you would take if you knew you would succeed . You should take a minute to imagine that you are sure to succeed in whatever you choose to do. What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail? Please write down the answer.

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Nurturing talent. Once you know what makes you happy, you should find ways to do it more often. It can be as simple as turning a passion into a hobby or as complex as changing careers.

If your passion is hard to come by, such as acting, you can join a local club or attend a class that will pave the way for your desire.
Pay attention to how you feel when you use your talents. You must be well aware of the feeling of lightness, of happiness. This will help you confirm that you are truly passionate about the activity. If you feel heavy, uncomfortable, you should reevaluate. ^{[7] X Research Sources}

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Appreciate your charm. Beauty and attractiveness are not the same. Attraction is the power to attract others. Ordinary beauty can contribute to making someone attractive. However, many other qualities are the factors that form the attraction.

Intelligence, kindness, confidence, health, and a sense of humor are all charismatic.
People who have a realistic self-image, people who focus on their emotions, and people who take good care of themselves are all charismatic people. ^{[8] X Research Sources}

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Use attractiveness from appearance. In addition to personal power, there are quite a few other charms you can use. The way you walk, stay calm, smile, and laugh are all powerful attractors. You should walk gracefully, and maintain a comfortable posture. Stand up straight when possible.

Smiling is one of the most attractive gestures you can make. When entering a certain room, you should smile at everyone in the room. Make eye contact while smiling. ^{[9] X Research Source}
The red color is quite attractive. For some reason, adding a little red to your outfit can attract positive attention. Even a handbag or red sneakers can make all the difference. ^{[10] X Research Source}
Light makeup. Light makeup will make you more beautiful, too much makeup will reduce your charm. Humans often react to natural looks, so you should apply makeup to correct it, not to cover it up. ^{[11] X Research Source}

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Look as pretty as possible. You will be at your best when you are always well groomed. Shower regularly, and choose flattering clothes. Consult the seller and remember the measurements to make sure the clothes you choose are not too tight or too loose. Wear clean clothes in a color that suits you. Choose a style that speaks to who you are: for example, if you love a certain type of music, you can wear clothing that is associated with this style.

Even if you wake up feeling hopeless, you should dress like you feel great. This measure will help you.
You don’t have to spend a lot of money on clothes.
Wear clothes that emphasize the parts of your body that feel pretty, but shouldn’t hide any other parts. Your body has its place.
Find a hair, skin, and style routine that you love. Your day should be a pleasure, not a task.

Steps

Examine yourself

Eliminate Negativity

Feeling better

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