How to Change into a New Person

Find fun for yourself . It is important that you pursue pleasure in work and life. Most people have hobbies or activities that they like to do in their free time, but what about work? If you’re starting a new chapter in your life, you should focus on finding work that brings you joy and fulfillment.

• Instead of chasing status and money (which can also be important, of course), you should find a job that offers challenges and responsibilities. This helps you keep improving and growing for long-term results. ^[11]
• Do the things you enjoy, or spend time each day with the people you care about. This helps you remember that you can create your own future. ^[12]

Set new goals. Part of changing into a new person is letting go of the things you used to want in your life. You don’t necessarily have to give up on a common goal (such as a steady job or finding a supportive partner), but you may have to remove some details from your previous goal and adjust to the new situation. . Learning to see this as a good thing, and the beginning of a great time in your life, will help you adapt well to the transition. ^[13] Set SMART goals that are specific, measurable, achievable, and results-focused ), and time-bound. ^[14]

• Specific — Goals should have a solid foundation, motivation, and execution plan. ^[15]
• Measurable — Each goal must have a clear and quantifiable outcome along the way. ^[16]
• Achievable — Goals should be challenging, but realistic and achievable. ^[17]
• Focus on results — Goals need to quantify specific results, rather than just quantitative actions. Focus on goals that help you see tangible results and work hard until you achieve them. ^[18]
• Time constraints — Goal implementation timelines need to be reasonable to create a sense of urgency and motivation, but still be realistic enough for unavoidable events or mistakes. ^[19]

Specify the purpose. Research shows that writing down your goals or viewing daily reminders can strengthen your resolve. Whatever your goal is, you should write it down and hang it in a visible place every day. ^[20]

• Having a specific purpose and reminding yourself regularly about that goal helps people become happier, no matter what the current situation. ^[21]
• View goals as often as possible. This is an important step in helping you achieve your goals and stay motivated along the way. ^[22]

Celebrate small victories. The road to success always contains many thorns and challenges. It’s easy to get frustrated when things don’t go well. That’s why you need to appreciate the small achievements that you achieve. ^[23]

• Appreciate the achievements in each activity. Even if you fail, such as losing your career, you should still consider it your own achievement: you are no longer tied to your business, and can start over on your own terms. want. ^[24]

Ignore negative people. There will always be someone who tells you that you will not succeed, or that all efforts are in vain. Many people don’t understand the importance of self-motivation and self-improvement. Motivation and work ethic are important factors, but you need to seek support and recognition from the people you care about. Friends and family should be around to encourage you as well as challenge to help you grow. ^[25]

• If your friends or colleagues don’t recognize your efforts to improve yourself, you need to find like-minded people for support.
• You can look to people in the community for support, or to a larger extent. Do not hesitate to seek help from colleagues, the religious community (if you are religious), or in the community. ^[26]

Practice social conversation. For people who have difficulty interacting socially, having long conversations with complete strangers is no easy feat. However, you can start slowly and work your way up. Try starting out smiling at people on the street, then complimenting the people you meet every day, and saying “thank you” to the cashier or waiter. These small steps help you become more confident and able to talk to people you don’t know. ^[27]

Practice communication skills. If you’re still not comfortable talking to strangers, you should talk to someone you know. Communication and social skills are perfected with practice, and each time you practice social skills, your communication skills with others will be enhanced. ^[28]

• Start with a long conversation with one or two people you know well and feel comfortable with, then move on to a conversation with a group of people you know. After you feel that your communication skills are fluent, you can practice your conversation skills with people you don’t know very well. ^[29]

Observe how others interact. A simple way to strengthen social skills is to observe others as they interact. You can do this with strangers. Try going to a public place, such as a coffee shop or bar (if you’re old enough to drink), and observe how people communicate. ^[30]

• Note the dialogue structure you observe. Is the conversation one-on-one or is it reciprocal? How to bring up the topic in the conversation: do they happen spontaneously while talking about other things or are mentioned on a whim? Is it possible to have a combination of the two?
• Note body language. Are the people talking close to each other or far apart? Do they maintain eye contact or look away?
• Observe multiple instances in a variety of environments. This gives you a better view of how people talk and interact with each other.

Search for conversation topics. If you’re talking to friends, think about things going on in your life that you can confide in with others. If you’re talking to strangers or you don’t know very well, you can mention current events to make the conversation easier. ^[31]

• Practice listening skills. Regardless of the topic of conversation, you should listen to the other person while they are speaking and turn into a dialogue. Note the content of the other person’s exchange, and ask some questions to show your interest.

Maintain polite behavior. One of the best ways to perfect your social skills is to be a friendly and approachable person. If you are polite and likable, people will want to talk to you a lot in the future. ^[32]

• Always say “please” and “thank you” when talking to others. People will recognize your polite behavior and see this as a good quality. ^[33]
• Your polite demeanor can sometimes mask a lack of confidence or hesitation and can help you become comfortable around others. ^[34]

Evaluate the cause of the change. Change is a healthy, and sometimes unavoidable, part of life. However, it’s important to consider why you’re changing your life. There are many factors that motivate a person to change, and the reasons vary from person to person depending on their particular circumstances. However, before deciding to change, it is important that you are changing for the right reason. ^[35]

• Think about what drives change. Do you want change for yourself or for others? Why is change important to you? ^[36]

Promise yourself. Goals and intentions are meaningless without commitment. No matter what the goal is, you should promise yourself that you won’t give up on it, and will do your best to achieve it. ^[37]

• If you can’t commit to doing it for yourself, you should commit to succeeding for someone else: a proud parent, a supportive partner, or a caring friend. No matter what you have to do, you should promise yourself that you won’t give up. ^[38]

Goodbye to the past . If you encounter something unfortunate or unlucky, it seems that the things that happened in the past will forever determine your future. However, it is a fact that the past does not necessarily govern the future. You can make an effort to forget the past and create your own success in the future. ^[39]

• If you’re trying to work through a past event but still feel stuck in moving forward, here are some helpful and essential tips to help you move forward.
• Learning how to deal with negative thinking, stop thinking, and overcome failure is extremely helpful in letting go of a difficult past.