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This article was co-written by Suzanna Mathews. Suzanna Mathews is a relationship consultant and founder of Date Maven. With over ten years of experience, she specializes in creating mindset tools, social strategies, and digital strategies to help clients enhance the dating experience and connections. Suzanna holds a bachelor’s degree in communications from Bethel University, North Newton, and a master’s degree in theater and drama from Wichita State University.
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It’s miserable to keep staring at your phone waiting for a guy’s text. Will he text you or should you text him? Luckily you don’t have to wait any longer – you can take the initiative to step forward! We’ve got the answers to the most frequently asked questions about when to text a guy first.
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Why do guys wait for you to text first?
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Maybe he doesn’t know you like him. Try to put yourself in his shoes and ask yourself what clues he uses to let him know your feelings. [3] X Research Source Think back to the last time you two met and see if you gave him a “green light”. [4] X Research Source Maybe it’s just because you didn’t make him aware.
- For example, do you smile at him, touch him, or show interest in his life? If you’re always reticent in his presence, he may not notice that you have a secret crush on him.
- Remember, he may be in the same situation as you. Maybe he’s also looking at his phone and wondering if he should text you first!
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Maybe he’s really busy with other priorities. Check on social media to see how he interacts with other people. Notice how often he posts and responds to others. If he doesn’t pay much attention to social media, he’s probably really busy. [5] X Research Sources
- For example, you may find that he rarely posts on social media, and that means he probably doesn’t have time. On the contrary, it is possible that he is not too busy if he diligently posts a series of activities in his daily life such as work, school, sports, and family events.
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Maybe he’s shy. Notice how he looks in real life. Is he quiet and introverted? If so, it may just be that he likes to give the initiative to others. [6] X Research Sources
- If you know he texts a lot, he’s probably not shy about it. However, there could also be some reason holding him back.
How do you know a guy is waiting for you to take the initiative to step forward?
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He often talks about being single or asks if you have a boyfriend. Look out for the telltale signs of a guy who is obsessed with you. Text him right away if he starts hinting at you about love. Maybe he has a crush on you! [7] X Research Sources
- You could say, “I was thinking about the conversation I had with you the other day. How was that afternoon?”
- Or, you could try sending a fun meme with a caption, such as “That penguin dance reminds me of a story you told.”
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He often looks at you and smiles at you. Notice how he usually looks at you when you’re together. Compare how he behaves with you and with other people. If he seems to be focused on you, he’s probably waiting for you to text. [8] X Research Sources
- For example, the guy’s face might light up when you walk into the room.
- Some people are flirtatious! If you find your guy cares about everyone, it’s probably just that he has a fun-loving nature.
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He’s usually nice to you. Think back to his behavior towards you lately. Notice things like he offers to help you with this or that, compliments you, or brings you small things like drinks. So it looks like the guy likes you. [9] X Research Source
- Note that some people are inherently good-natured. If he treats everyone like that, then he’s probably just a really nice person.
Should I text him first or wait for him to text?
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Text in advance to dispel any reservations. Don’t sit around waiting for the guy to step forward! [10] X Research Source Keep things natural by asking him something or sharing an interesting piece of information on the internet. Just send a text and wait to see if he responds. [11] X Research Source You can text:
- “I recognize the band printed on your shirt today. What do you think of their new album?”
- “This English exercise is hard to kill. What topic did you choose?”
- “There’s a new treasure hunt game coming out. It seems that Dang likes this kind of game, right?”
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Boldly text if the two of you already have a first date. Don’t worry about how long you “have to” wait after your first date. Just send him a short text to let him know you’re happy. [12] X Research Source You might say:
- “Tonight was so much fun! Thank you for a wonderful evening.”
- “It’s been a long time since I had such a good time. Thank you”
- “Talking to you is a pleasure. Tonight was great!”
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Wait for him to respond before texting back. Only send one text at a time until you know his texting habits. Focus on something else while you wait so you don’t get impatient. If you send a lot of texts at once, the guy may feel overwhelmed. [13] X Research Source
- Feeling sad and down when the guy doesn’t reply to messages is normal. Maybe you really want to text back, but often this doesn’t work out either. Leave a message for someone who wants to talk to you.
Did he wait for me to text after the argument?
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Maybe he needs his own space to process his emotions. Give your guy some time to process what happened when the two of you argued. If he says he needs some time, just go with him. Wait for things to cool down before texting. [14] X Research Source
- If you need to talk about what happened, talk to a trusted person like a close friend or family member.
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Maybe he’s waiting for you to apologize if you hurt him. Text him first if it’s more your fault. Tell him that you understand where the problem lies and promise to fix it next time. [15] X Research Source You can text:
- “I’m so sorry that I forgot the plan I discussed to upset you. I promise I’ll pay more attention next time.”
- “I know I hurt you because I kept it a secret from you. Leave it to me. From now on, I will tell you anything.”
What if a guy doesn’t text you first?
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Maybe he doesn’t know what to say. Talk to him first and see if he responds. Ask about his day’s work or his hobbies and plans. [16] X Research Resources Alternatively, show your interest by sending him a quick snapshot of what you’re up to or talking about your plans. To create a fun atmosphere, you can add a few memes or jokes. Text sentences like:
- “How were you at school today?”
- “What are you going to do this weekend?”
- “What are you watching on Netflix these days?”
- “Look at this picture I just finished!”
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Maybe he’s not interested in dating you. Don’t be too upset if he doesn’t text you, but watch out for his other behaviors – it could be that he just doesn’t care. [17] X Research Source
- You can probe first by sending him a friendly text to see if he responds. Try sending him a meme or asking him about something.
- You can text “What is the title of the book I saw you reading today?”, “I heard you played in a band, right? What music are you playing?” or “I saw you walking the dog today. What’s it called?”
Should I stop texting if he’s always waiting for me to text first?
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Not if he always replies and keeps talking. Notice how he responds. Is he quick to respond and enthusiastic to talk? If both answers are “yes”, then keep texting! [18] X Research Sources
- For example, let’s say you text “Have you seen the latest Marvel movie?” If after a while he replies “Yes! Very good. Have you seen it yet?” or “Okay, what about you?” Maybe he likes talking to you.
- However, short one-word answers and slow responses are often a sign that he doesn’t really want to continue the conversation.
Stop texting for a few days if you feel like he’s not interested. Let him start the conversation first to see if he really wants to talk to you. [19] X Research Source Don’t text or send social media messages for a few days to see what happens. Maybe he just sees you as a friend or is just being polite and is afraid to say he doesn’t have a crush on you. [20] X Research Source
- Don’t look at your phone all day. Text a friend or spend this time on your hobbies to forget about waiting.
Advice
- While you’re waiting for your guy to text, make it fun to distract yourself. Time seems to drag on when people have to wait and it’s easy to get tired. [21] X Research Source
- The boys are each different! Don’t think that a guy doesn’t like you just because he doesn’t always text first. If he’s still texting you on a regular basis, that’s a good sign. [22] X Research Source
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This article was co-written by Suzanna Mathews. Suzanna Mathews is a relationship consultant and founder of Date Maven. With over ten years of experience, she specializes in creating mindset tools, social strategies, and digital strategies to help clients enhance the dating experience and connections. Suzanna holds a bachelor’s degree in communications from Bethel University, North Newton, and a master’s degree in theater and drama from Wichita State University.
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