How to be more social

Pay attention to your insecurities. Everyone can feel shy or insecure at one time or another, but if you feel haunted by your shyness, it could be because you are telling yourself in some way. that you are not worthy. These false feelings are reinforced day by day by negative things that you regularly say to yourself. Learn to notice negative thoughts and distinguish between rational and irrational thoughts.

• How often do you tell yourself that you’re not attractive? Do you consider yourself a bland person? That you’re crazy? Remiss? These negative thoughts make you not confident enough to communicate. More importantly, they prevent you from living a meaningful life.
• Only by identifying your insecurities and telling yourself that you are worthy can you become truly inclusive.
• Sometimes we get so used to these negative thoughts that we don’t even notice them anymore. Start paying attention to such thoughts in your head.

Learn how to deal with negative thoughts. Once you’ve learned to recognize them, you can gradually train yourself to stop those thoughts so they no longer haunt your life. When you catch yourself having a bad thought, try these exercises:

• First, identify any negative thoughts that are present. Now, close your eyes and picture that thought in your mind. Then label the thought “negative” on it and let it gradually recede until it disappears completely.
• Turn a negative thought into a constructive one. Take, for example, your overweight status. Instead of constantly telling yourself, “I’m too fat,” say, “I want to lose weight and get back in shape to become a more energetic and attractive person.” In this way, you have converted a negative thought into a positive goal for the future.
• For each negative thought, think of three positives.
• When you become a positive person, it will be easier for you to make friends and socialize. No one wants to be friends with someone who always has a dark cloud overhead.

Write down your advantages. Unfortunately, we often spend so much time trying to improve ourselves that we forget to be aware of our own achievements, talents, and good nature. Ask yourself the following questions before you begin:

• What made you proud in the past year?
• What is your greatest achievement to date?
• Do you have any unique talents?
• What do people compliment you on?
• What have you done that has had a positive impact on the lives of others?

Stop comparing yourself to others. One of the reasons people get stuck with insecurity is that they compare their “weaknesses” with the “strengths” of others. In other words, they compare the negative values in their lives with the positive values in the lives of those around them.

• Remember, everyone experiences pain or hardship in life. If you find yourself wondering why these people seem happier than you, remember, happiness is not related to external circumstances, it depends on the attitude of the person.
• If you’re too busy thinking about other people, you won’t have time to make yourself more interesting and complete.

Remember that you are not the center of the universe. Ironically, people who are constantly afraid and feel invisible often assume that they are constantly being watched, criticized, and ridiculed. Even though you’re not invisible, the idea that strangers are always staring at you and waiting for you to get in trouble is completely extreme. Everyone has their own life and they have very little time to notice you if you do something awkward. Even if they notice, they will forget the incident in a few hours, and you keep it in your heart for a few years.

• Letting go of feelings that you are always being watched and judged will help you learn to become more comfortable and relaxed around other people, making socializing more bearable.
• Get rid of the idea that everyone is looking at you and judging you. Like you, they are more concerned with themselves than with the people around them.

Forget the fear of rejection. You have a nightmare…that you meet someone, and that person no longer wants to see you again. Is it very uncomfortable? Exactly. Is it the end of the world? Of course not. In fact this happens very rarely. If you assume that most people will reject you and fear socializing because of it, you will miss out on meeting many great people.

• Of course, you don’t have to meet everyone, so you should come to meet or greet most people. But think about the interesting relationships you could find, if only you were more open-minded.