How to Identify Homosexuality

Notice how they talk about men. Listen when he talks about other men. How often do they say this guy is handsome or that guy is attractive? Do they talk about their favorite male character in the movie or a certain male star? Does he panic whenever he’s near a burly male co-worker? Such traits could be a sign that he likes men a little more than usual admiration.

• For example, if they say something like “Oh my, I’ve been hanging out with Tuan for a week. He’s so nice and I feel very comfortable around him”.

Think about how they talk about women. You should also pay attention to language that shows a lack of interest in women, or a complete lack of attraction to women. This could be an indication that they are gay. Men are often shy or awkward around the woman they like. If you don’t see any such signs, he may be gay.

• For example, do they become reluctant or act annoyed when you suggest a girlfriend?

Watch for sneaky, shy, or timid behavior. When someone suspects they are gay, they often have to hide a lot of things about themselves. They even show it, just don’t tell you, and that also means they have to hide another part of their life. Look for signs they are hiding something or are embarrassed or shy about something as this could be a sign of being gay.

• For example, if you ask him to do something like attend a gay festival and he declines because he’s busy, that could be a sign.

Look for physical clues. One of the theories as to why a person is gay has to do with their hormones right before birth. Levels of this hormone can be high enough to show on the outside and be a sign that the person is gay. Find the characteristics of walking, body shape ^[1] , or similar finger length to women ^[2] . These could be signs that he has more estrogen than usual in the womb, and this affects brain development. However, it is important to remember that this sign is not 100% sure. There are many other factors that contribute to changes in the body, so you cannot rely on this as a point gun.

• In women the ring finger and index finger are of equal length, while in men the ring finger is longer. These two fingers in gay men tend to be more equal than in straight men. However, there are also factors (such as having multiple brothers) that may make this trait completely unsuitable for homosexuality.

Consider other possibilities. You should also consider the other possibility indicated by these distinct signs. It is possible that the friend is not gay but falls into a different position on the scale Kinsey uses to determine sexual orientation. They can be:

• Bisexual means liking both men and women.
• Asexual means no sexual desire with the person they like.
• He might not like you, if you’re wondering why they haven’t made a move on you.

Don’t judge based on female voice or soft talk. According to gay culture some people intentionally adjust their voice in some way, but this is not a good way to judge this friend if he has a similar or “smug” way of speaking. Some people are soft-spoken or innately like women.

• For example, they are shy or grew up in an environment where people have such a way of speaking.

Don’t judge based on what they like to do. A guy’s preferences are also not the basis for judging whether he is gay or not. Everyone has different preferences, there are women who like to watch football but there are also men who like to do things that are often related to women or gays.

• Examples of activities a man enjoys doing but is still completely straight: figure skating, dancing, and singing.

Don’t judge based on movies or music. Movies or music that he likes are also not a reasonable basis for judging whether they are gay or not. You’ll have to look for other markers besides their mp3 collection.

• Examples of movies or music that they like but are still completely straight men: music by Lady Gaga, musicals and sentimental films.

Do not judge based on appearance, dress or grooming. There is a type of man who is very good at dressing up or spends a lot of time combing his hair, and this type of man can be said to be gay. However, nowadays more and more men invest a lot of time in appearance, so this judgment is no longer appropriate.

• Similarly, you shouldn’t assume that just because a person has a strong masculinity and doesn’t even know how to hold a hairbrush, you can be certain that he is a straight man.

Don’t judge based on his friends . Sometimes you claim a person is gay because he hangs out with girls or because their best friend seems to be gay. This is not a fair assessment. Everyone has different goals when it comes to making friends and he probably just feels better around his existing friends.

Find opportunities to talk privately. Find a suitable time for the two of you to talk. This is a very personal matter and of course you should not put them in an awkward situation in front of many people. You should first find a way to bring up this sensitive topic by talking about other intimate matters. It’s important that you help them feel comfortable and make it a goal that the two of you can share your feelings privately.

• For example, talk about family or political issues and your concerns for the future.

Show support if you have gay friends. Gently bring up topics that help them realize you’re gay, and that he doesn’t have to hide his true nature when he meets you. You can talk about someone else who is gay, or if you don’t know anyone like that, assume there is someone who dares to identify as gay.

• For example, you could say, “I have great admiration for people like Mr. Long. He has succeeded in convincing conservatives that homosexuals have many other advantages besides being offensive. . He’s very happy now. I wish everyone could be true to who they are and be proud of themselves.”

Talk about other friends who have confessed to being gay. You can talk about experiences other people have had with coming to terms with being gay. Show them that you are also worried that the negative experience might hurt them, but it will help them understand that you are available to be a support if they need it.

• You can say, “Before Phuong decided to live with her gender, I was very worried. She seemed unhappy, like she was not satisfied with herself. Then people were too selfish towards her later. when she confessed to being gay. I don’t want anyone to go through that experience.”

Give them a chance to speak up. You’ve now set a favorable premise and shown that you’re safe to tell, giving them time and a chance to tell the truth. He may speak out during this conversation, otherwise he may not speak for a few days. But if they’re really gay, they’ll probably let you know when they’re comfortable and really trust you.

• It’s important to maintain an environment of trust if you want them to speak out. Don’t gossip about anyone because revealing someone else’s secret means you can reveal him.