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This article was co-written by Julia Yacoob, PhD. Julia Yacoob is a practicing clinical psychologist in New York City. She specializes in providing cognitive behavioral therapy to adults experiencing stress in their lives. Yacoob holds a master’s and a doctorate in clinical psychology from Rutgers University, has studied intensively at Weill Cornell Medical College, and trained at New York Church Hospital, Memorial Sloan Cancer Center- Kettering, Institute of Behavioral Therapy and Bellevue Hospital Cancer Center. Yacoob is a member of the American Psychological Association, the Women’s Mental Health League, the NYC Cognitive Behavior Therapy Association, and the Cognitive and Behavioral Therapy Association.
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Breakups always leave pain, especially when the ex has caused you a lot of pain. If you have thoughts of taking revenge on your ex after breaking up, it is understandable. While revenge may sound like a good thing, oftentimes you feel even worse. If you still want to get back at him, you can use a few simple tactics that won’t get you in trouble. However, remember, the best revenge is to show your ex that you don’t need him. Besides, you will probably feel more relieved if you can handle the urge to get revenge, because wanting revenge is still suffering.
Steps
Retaliation for ex-lover
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Sending the “wrong” person a message for another guy. Make your ex think you’ve left your ex for someone else by sending him a love text. Soon, you will send another message correcting that you sent it by mistake. Your ex will think that you are no longer interested in him and have quickly found someone new. [1] X Research Source
- You can text “Thank you for taking me out last night. I’ll see you next time.” Then text “Sorry, wrong number. Will delete contact immediately.”
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Post an embarrassing photo of him online or in public. While you should never post private pictures of your ex, it’s okay to post bad pictures of him. Share the photo on social media or ask a friend to post it for you. Another option is to print out a photo and hang it around your ex’s neighborhood or other places he frequents. [2] X Research Source
- For example, you could use a photo of your ex doing something stupid or having ugly hair.
- Don’t post pictures of your ex wearing no clothes or half naked for any reason.
Warning: Be aware that your actions can turn into bullying if you keep posting pictures of him. If you decide to use this trick, you should only post once.
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Hide something from your ex when you go to his house to get yours. Tell your ex that you need to go to his house to get your stuff left over while you’re dating. When you get there, hide something you know he needs, like a TV remote, a game console, or his favorite Lego pieces. Your ex will be mad until they find the hidden item. [3] X Research Sources
- Don’t take anything from your ex, because that’s theft.
- Be careful not to damage the item while hiding it. For example, tucking the TV remote in the center of the sofa is fine, but don’t leave it behind the bathroom toilet or it gets wet.
- Hide the item somewhere he eventually finds it. For example, you can put the bottle opener in another drawer in the kitchen, but don’t put it in the air conditioner vent.
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Send his new lover an anonymous message about what he’s done. If your ex-boyfriend is already dating someone new, you’ll probably be heartbroken, especially if he betrayed you for that person. Try not to take your anger out on his new guy because they probably don’t know anything about you. However, you can let them know your ex’s bad news. Send them an email, social media, or text message telling them what happened in your relationship with your ex. [4] X Research Sources
- Create a fake social media profile or disposable email address. If you want to send messages, try using an app that allows you to send messages from a fake phone book.
- You can text “I heard you are dating Liem. I think you need to know that when he meets you, he already has a girlfriend. He cheated on his ex and lied over and over again. If it were you, I would be wary of him.”
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Let your ex suffer the consequences of his actions. This is a great way to get revenge because you don’t have to do anything. After he has hurt you, he may not be hurt even though he has treated you badly. However, his actions will eventually pay a price. You just sit back and watch him deal with the consequences. [5] X Research Sources
- For example, right now your ex might be smitten with a new lover for whom he dumped you. However, people will realize that he is a traitor, and that will damage his reputation. In addition, the relationship between the two of them had a bad start, so there would be trust issues between him and the newcomer. Think of those consequences every time you feel resentment for what happened.
Prove to your ex that you don’t need him
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Go out and have fun with friends. After a breakup, people often just want to curl up at home and cry. While it’s okay to do so, you should go out and have a good time. Invite your friends to do something fun and enjoy life. Then post pictures of you having fun so everyone knows how good you are. [6] X Research Source
- For example, you can go skateboarding with friends, go bowling, play mini gpf, audition for a community theater team, organize a game night, go to a bar, or sing karaoke.
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Flirt with other guys whenever an ex is around. You may not be ready for a new relationship, but a little fun flirting won’t hurt. Plus, people often crave what they don’t have, so your ex might get jealous when you see you flirting with other guys. Feel free to praise and gently touch the hands or shoulders of guys you know. When you see your ex looking at you, lean in closer to the other guy for a more intimate look. [7] X Research Sources
- You can say things like “You are so funny!” or “The shirt you are wearing is beautiful.”
Tip: Post pictures of you and other boys on your social media accounts if you think your ex has seen it. Even if the other guys are just friends, he might still get jealous and realize you don’t need him.
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Cherish all the good things in your life. At this point, it must be difficult for you to think optimistically because you are still depressed after the breakup. To look at the bright side, make a list of everything you’re grateful for in life, then share your gratitude with others by talking to your friends. and post it online. [8] X Research Sources
- You can post online, “I am so glad I have the opportunity to display my artwork at the Good Beans Coffeehouse!” or “I’m so lucky to have good friends in my life, a puppy by my side, and a job I love.”
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Take some time to groom yourself to feel beautiful. Wear your favorite outfit, style your hair, and put on makeup if you normally wear makeup. Pamper yourself with a manicure or a new haircut, then take some beautiful pictures and post them online for everyone to see. You can also invite friends to go through an area you know your ex is in. [9] X Research Source
- Don’t bother about changing yourself or revamping your beauty. You are already great!
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Try doing something new to develop yourself. You can sometimes feel lonely when you’re alone if you’ve been used to having a lover around. Take this chance to do something you’ve always wanted to try! Make a list of activities, hobbies, or pastimes you can try, then start working on them one by one. [10] X Research Source
- For example, you could try going to a new restaurant, learn to paint, learn to play the guitar, or join a sports team for fun.
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Avoid bringing up your ex so he thinks you’ve forgotten him. This guy has hurt you, so maybe you want to let everyone know that he’s a jerk. However, this action will only show that you are still thinking about your ex. Instead, don’t mention the person’s name so people think you’ve left him behind. [11] X Research Source
- If you still need to vent, confide in a close friend. But remember, don’t tell anyone.
Coping with the urge to get revenge
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Allow yourself to feel your emotions. Your wound is probably still very painful right now, but that’s okay. If you want revenge, that’s okay too. Tell yourself that it’s okay to feel this way and let those feelings pass. [12] X Research Source
- You can tell yourself. “I was angry because he broke up with me when it was almost Valentine’s Day. But before, I thought he really cared about me. I want him to suffer as much as I do.”
Advice: You may feel a little guilty for wanting revenge, but there’s nothing to worry about. Fantasizing about revenge is completely normal.
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Imagine you are taking revenge and its consequences. Fantasy revenge scenes are often far more satisfying than reality. Imagine you are taking your anger out on your ex, such as spraying paint on his lawn with a note about a bad thing he did or burning his favorite shirt. Enjoy the satisfaction of seeing him suffer. Then imagine what might happen after that if you really did. [13] X Research Source
- For example, let’s say your ex betrayed you. You can picture yourself coming to spray the words “traitor” on his car. Then, picture in your mind a scene of your ex driving around and embarrassed by being laughed at. Next, think about the consequences of that action if you do it. For example, his mother gets angry when she finds out and you could be arrested for vandalism.
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Find a relaxing activity to relax and think through. You are probably very angry right now, and you have a right to feel that way. However, try not to make any decisions when you are filled with negative emotions. Do something that calms you down and calms you down. [14] X Research Source
- For example, you could go to a yoga class, buy an adult coloring book, go outside for a walk, ask your best friend to browse the store, or play with your dog.
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Try talking to your ex about your feelings if you found it helpful. You may never want to see your ex again, but sometimes you’ll feel better after telling him how you feel. If you feel this makes you more comfortable, offer to talk to your ex in person or on the phone. When talking, you should use sentences with the subject of yourself to let your ex know how his actions have hurt you. [15] X Research Source
- Sentences with the subject “I” will give the impression that you are focusing on yourself without blaming the other person. For example, say “I feel you don’t respect me”, don’t say “I don’t respect you at all”.
- You can say, “I feel you betrayed my trust. I feel very sad.”
Alternative: If you don’t want to talk, send him a text or email expressing how you feel.
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Pity your ex because he’s so bad as a boyfriend. Maybe you’re hating your ex right now, but seeing him as a pitiful person can help you feel better about what happened. Try to see him as weak or incompetent, someone who has failed in a relationship. Think how sad that was for him. [16] X Research Source
- You might say to yourself, “He’s so pitiful that he’s not mature enough to break up with someone before someone new.” or “He must be lonely to need two girlfriends like that. I feel sorry for him.”
Advice
- Remember the adage “The sweetest revenge is to live a happy life.”
Warning
- Physically venting or reacting to your ex with illegal actions may give you a moment’s gloom, but can end up getting you in trouble.
- Don’t share your ex’s nudity or sexiness for revenge. This action is not only rude but also offensive and wrong, even illegal.
- Revenge can make you feel even more hurt. Maybe it’s best to focus on doing things that make you happy instead of making him miserable.
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This article was co-written by Julia Yacoob, PhD. Julia Yacoob is a practicing clinical psychologist in New York City. She specializes in providing cognitive behavioral therapy to adults experiencing stress in their lives. Yacoob holds a master’s and a doctorate in clinical psychology from Rutgers University, has studied intensively at Weill Cornell Medical College, and trained at New York Church Hospital, Memorial Sloan Cancer Center- Kettering, Institute of Behavioral Therapy and Bellevue Hospital Cancer Center. Yacoob is a member of the American Psychological Association, the Women’s Mental Health League, the NYC Cognitive Behavior Therapy Association, and the Cognitive and Behavioral Therapy Association.
There are 8 references cited in this article that you can see at the bottom of the page.
This article has been viewed 5,201 times.
Breakups always leave pain, especially when the ex has caused you a lot of pain. If you have thoughts of taking revenge on your ex after breaking up, it is understandable. While revenge may sound like a good thing, oftentimes you feel even worse. If you still want to get back at him, you can use a few simple tactics that won’t get you in trouble. However, remember, the best revenge is to show your ex that you don’t need him. Besides, you will probably feel more relieved if you can handle the urge to get revenge, because wanting revenge is still suffering.
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