How to Be Strong

Remember that you are in control. To be strong means to have power and the ability to influence one’s own life, while weak means to be helpless and unable to take care of oneself. Whatever your situation, there are things you can do and things you can’t. It’s important that you focus on what you “can” control. Make a list of the difficulties you are having, then make another list of what you can do to change the situation for the better. Learn to accept the first list (because you can’t change it) and focus your energy on making the second list.

• In studies of people with high AQs, resilient people not only consistently find aspects of their control in the face of difficulties, but they also feel empowered. responsibility to take action to improve the situation, even when the difficulty is caused by someone else. In contrast, people with low AQs pass up opportunities to take action and don’t take responsibility for improving situations, because they think that they are not the ones who created them, so they are not the ones who should. change them. ^[1]

Choose your attitude to life. Sometimes, we are really powerless to try to change the situation. Even so, you can still be in control because no matter what, you are the one who can control your attitude towards life. As Victor Frankl once said: “People who have lived in concentration camps still remember the image of people going through the huts to comfort others, giving away the last piece of bread they had. These are not many, but they are proof to us that a person can be deprived of all but one: the right to freedom – the right to choose one’s attitude and behavior in the face of any situation.” No matter what difficulties you are facing, stay optimistic.

• If someone is making your life miserable, don’t let them defeat you. Stay proud, believe, and remember that no one can take your attitude away from you. As Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent”.
• Try not to let a crisis or difficulty in one area of your life spread to other parts. For example, if you are having a hard time at work, avoid being irritable towards your partner when she/he has done nothing wrong but trying to help you. Remove the effects of difficulties by controlling your attitude. Resilient people don’t turn failures into disasters, just as they don’t let negativity affect their lives in a domino effect. ^[1]
• If possible, memorize the Quiet Prayer: “Give me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” distinction between the two”.

Rediscover your passion for life. Emotional people see every day as a gift. And they try to make the most of this gift. Do you remember when you were a kid, you used to show interest in the simplest things in life – playing with fallen leaves in the fall, drawing pictures of imaginary animals, eating cookies. Be that child. Your ability to become mentally and emotionally strong depends on it. ^[2]

Believe in yourself. You’ve come a long way, you can make it through one more day. And if you try every day, or every minute, you can survive the difficult situation. It certainly won’t be easy, and you’re not invincible, so try little by little. When you feel like you’re about to collapse, close your eyes, and take a deep breath. Always remember the following:

• Do not listen to those who oppose you. For whatever reason, someone will always doubt you. What you need to do is not listen to them, and in the end, prove them wrong. Don’t let them steal your trust just because they lost faith in themselves. The world around you is waiting for you to change it. Don’t hesitate.
• Think about the moment you succeeded. Use them as motivation to continue the journey. Whether that moment is when you do a great job at homework, when you talk to that special someone, or when you have a baby. Let these moments feed the desire to push you to become stronger and calmer. A longing to be reborn!
• Try, try and keep trying. There will be times when you doubt yourself because you tried but failed. But did you know that failure is only part of your journey, just a chapter in the book. Instead of giving up because you’re unsuccessful and feeling frustrated, take the “foresight”. Keep trying and remember that “failure is the mother of success”.

Be wise in your choice. Are the little provocations in life – co-workers questioning you, drivers not picking you up – worth your attention? Ask yourself why and whether these things matter. Pay attention to the important things in your life and ignore the other little things. As Sylvia Robinson once said, “Many people think that holding on makes them strong – but sometimes letting go is the solution.”

Find help in someone you love. Spend time with friends and family, and people who support you and stay positive. If you can’t meet them, make new friends. And if you can’t find anyone, you can help those who need it more than you. Sometimes when we feel powerless to make situations better, we can find strength in helping others improve their lives.

• There is no doubt – humans are social animals. Scientific studies have shown that socializing is an important factor in improving emotional and physical health. ^[3] If you feel you are having difficulty socializing, you can seek help. Here are some suggestions to get you started:
  • Have a real conversation with someone
  • Overcome your mistakes – don’t let your mistakes affect you!
  • Overcoming a breakup
  • Overcome shyness
  • Act like an extrovert

Balance work and leisure, rest and exercise. Sounds easy doesn’t it? However, we often ignore this principle because it seems that they are difficult to implement. Either we are often overworked and often travel to many places, or we are too lazy to allow and lie like a hippopotamus, indifferent to countless opportunities. Balancing work and play, rest and exercise will allow you to cherish the moments you have. You will not fall into the situation of “standing in this mountain and looking at that mountain” as long as you do not “stagnate”.

Be grateful for what you have. Life is difficult, but if you pay attention, you will find that life is full of things to appreciate. Even when the things that made you happy in the past are over, there are still many things that you need to appreciate. The joy that the world around you gives you will fuel you through the most difficult times, so take care of what you have and enjoy its worth. Maybe you don’t have a new shirt, or don’t get what you want, but at least you have a computer with an internet connection to use. Many others can’t read, don’t have computers, and don’t even have a home to live in. Think about it.

Don’t take the matter too seriously . Charlie Chaplin knows how to comedians. He once said, “Life is a tragedy when viewed up close, but if you look at it from a distance, life is a comedy.” It’s easy for us to wallow in life’s small tragedies that cause us to act petty. But take a step back and look at life in a more philosophical, playful, romantic way. The miracles, the extraordinary possibilities, the absurdities of life – enough to make you laugh and realize how lucky you are.

• Honestly, life will be “busier” if you don’t take everything too seriously. While joy and happiness are not everything that life has to offer, they are quite important.

Remember that nothing is eternal. If you’re in a grieving mood and you’re out of control, face it. And if you’re having a hard time, always remind yourself that every difficulty passes.